Or maybe when you do have sex it isn't fulfilling enough to last days.

Every couple is different.

For us there is a lot involved. Toys, spankings, choking, dirty talk, lot of movement, etc.

We can do this once a week and the pleasure gained from it will last days.

Also Locations change things up too. Never like spicing this up during a xmas party by sneaking off and getting it on.

You buy a house cheap. Your wages go up cause wages have been going up for a lot of industries (due to cost of housing and competition). You don't have to work as hard because your mortgage stayed the same. You can keep the same job or work less hours.

It's happening all around me in SV. Many owners who bought below $1m basically retiring early because they started making $300-500K/yr for the last few years and now are FIRE'd thanks to the incredible wage growth while they locked in a much lower COL than people who had to buy 10 years later.

Here's the fun part - we aren't expecting your standard senior IC to be making 7 figures in the next few years but that's what it'd take to be comparable to the wage growth that we've seen in SV in the last decade along with housing prices.

> My parents are millionaires and they havent given me anything post undergraduate.

So they gave you everything until you were basically 22? Do you even realize how much of your life they've set up for you?

Generational wealth is mostly irrelevant for most kids anyway. They're not getting the wealth until the parents die (Parents tend to die when kids are in their 50s). The grandchildren will receive it much sooner than the parents will (in terms of relative position to their birth).

It's also "if your wife's relationship with you depends on how much she makes compared with you she has a lot of soul searching to do."

Historically women have married up in status. They still have that preference but that preference is not realistic now that more women are rising up higher in the workforce.

Actually me and my wife are both 6 figure earners. I used a common example for young couples where the wife normally earns half if not less than their partner. And while there was a time in my life this was the case, my wife makes close to what I make. And we love each other. But with kids and day to day activities, there isn't enough time in the day. You'd be surprised how much you don't even feel the need for sex when you have so much other enjoyment in life.

Between us working hard so we can retire early in life, we could stop working at the age of 45 if we wanted and our investments would still grow while living off them, I have plenty of enjoyment at home after work. I love cooking, I love engineering and wooding in my shop, I love playing video games, I love programming small little gadgets, I love to learn. Hell I even love to catch up on a TV show with the Wife, or play some Mario Party as a family.

We're in bed by 10 most nights, and I'm up before 6. Me and the Wife don't need to have sex every night. Sure that was a thing years ago, but 15 years in once a week makes up happy.

I get more enjoyment teaching my daughter how to design and build something from start to finish, or playing some Minecraft with my Boys. Making Something for dinner we've never had, etc. My priorates are in the correct space.

I guess it depends on the kids. Some of them cry more, involve more energy, wake up earlier. When going to bed you remember the morning pain and quickly evaluate the pleasure component. Moreover, both partners need to have equally high energy levels in order to do that, and this can be a challenge even in a relationship without kids. So respect to those who manage to do it daily with 3.

Exactly! This is a personal preference thing but I don't think folks realize how often some of us _have to_ make love to maintain sanity. They are often quickies due to the kids but we both strive to make it happen because we like it so much.