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Having decent relationships with other people != having a large number of superficial friends

The a.i. warns against external validation from love and friends. It does not warn of superficial friends but "friends".

I interpret the warning as the external validation part, not the type of friend.

But it explicitly excludes friends, love and even respect. How do you have a decent relationship with people without any respect?

By offering respect without the need to receive respect in return.

Ah so it encourages people to enter abusive relationships.

Well, that would be offering respect while asking for disrespect... which is also a form of external validation.