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> and you have decent relationships, and you don't have to worry about "am I successful enough?" all the time. "

So the correct thing is not to look for love, money, or being well liked. The correct thing is to be well liked and be well enough of that worrying about success is not needed.

Given the ability to contradict itself in a few short sentences has someone tried to start a GPT-3 for president campaign? It is an American product right?

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I find it to be right on the money. It seems that spiritual paths disclose this truth in their own ways. I’ve found it to be true for myself. You sort of have to make a leap of faith. Even on more scientific grounds related to studying consciousness in relation to mind state and how that affects “the render of reality” so to speak.

Fake it till you make it as they say.

Having decent relationships doesn't mean you derive your validation and self-worth from them, it just means you behave in such a way that you get along with people close to you.

Also the need to be well-liked does not mean you have decent relationships, quite the opposite. You may find yourself sacrificing things you hold dear in order for others to like you and that's not a decent relationship in my opinion.

Having decent relationships with other people != having a large number of superficial friends

But it explicitly excludes friends, love and even respect. How do you have a decent relationship with people without any respect?

By offering respect without the need to receive respect in return.

Ah so it encourages people to enter abusive relationships.

Well, that would be offering respect while asking for disrespect... which is also a form of external validation.

The a.i. warns against external validation from love and friends. It does not warn of superficial friends but "friends".

I interpret the warning as the external validation part, not the type of friend.

I think doing the right thing in the moment is where the relationships come from.

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