I’m going through something very similar with my GF of 6 years, though not married and I’m 28. Super difficult because I care a lot about her but I know I can’t keep going any more for her sake and mine. And I want to live by myself again and discover more of who I am and what it’s like to date as an independent adult and not a drunk college student. I also just am not confident taking the next step… specifically with her, unfortunately. And, I might be open to the next step with someone else, I may just not know myself well enough.

Just working up the courage to talk out loud about this, let alone with her, was so difficult. But dude, it was worth. I told her everything. I’m already feeling better - a bit scared about the next chapter of my life but I feel better.

If you communicate how you feel well enough, your partner will understand. I don’t think many people want to be in a relationship with a partner that isn’t feeling it.

And you might be surprised where the conversation goes. Things might be said that change your mind in subtle ways.

Stop wasting time, gently tell her how you feel.