> It's possible to say racist things without intending to be racist
This is still using loose language to try and equate two things that are not equal, "saying racist things" is still not the same thing as "being racist". Though it's getting closer, intent and context definitely matters.
ex. I use the term "black" to describe to people when applicable. There was a blip of time when that was a racist thing to say, some people probably still think it would be better to say "african-american" and might think the language is racist. But my use of the term is not because I am being racist.
The issue here is that there are those who would abuse good faith and nuance, but I generally think it's pretty obvious when it happens, and this seems to not be one of those times. It can be fatiguing to continually need to use critical thinking, but it's not something we can just stop doing if we want to keep progressing.