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I'm sorry to hear that this happened to you. Brexit also put a lot of psychological pressure on my wife. She's from a Baltic country, but during Brexit, she'd constantly be asked if she was Polish for no reason at all.

-"Hi, nice to meet you"

-"Hi, are you Polish?"

Nothing against Polish people of course, but it made her start to gradually lose it. Each new instance would bring tears for days

Luckily, it seems Brexit is not on everyone's mind now. Good luck to you, try not to stress out (it's not your fault)

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Me and my partner are in the same boat as your wife - we're from the baltic states and when people are curious about our origins, they ask if we're polish or not. I don't really hold it against people, but having to reassert your own ethnicity gets tiring. Most people are not aware of the country I come from anyway.

As a side note of the knowledge the general public holds, it seems like the history knowledge people get out of highschool is severely lacking.

When I lived in the US everyone would automatically assume I was Mexican (I am Spanish), so I totally get how it feels. I remember that some times I'd even say that yes, I was Mexican, just to avoid having to spend any time on it. For example, in the US loads of people think that Spain is next to Mexico. So I'd joke that I went home by train, and if nobody blinked, I'd at least get a laugh out of it. This is a big part of why I love all the Borat movies

I'm Polish and I run into this all the time. Every time I get asked "are you Polish"? Sometimes the asker is genuienly just curious, but sometimes the tone of the conversation somehow cools down when I say yes. Lived here for 11 years and don't think I have much of an accent, but people still ask.

There is a divide between attitudes to continental Europeans in the UK though. I'm British and my wife is Spanish, and although she feels much more unwelcome now it's nothing compared to some of the racially-charged rubbish that I've heard people openly say about people from eastern European countries.

True. I am Spanish myself and feel super welcome, unlike my wife (although I have an American accent which makes it easier for me to disguise I guess). My ears cringe each time I hear things like "Beast from the east", let alone "PIIGS". It's a cultural/media problem

Gosh, that is so terrible, someone noticed your accent and asked where you came from... sounds like the IVth Reich is coming fast !!

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