I suppose it depends what circles you run in. I can name thirty people without pausing for breath that I know who believe that not only are men and women interchangeable, but that it is ethically monstrous to even assign shades of "masculine" or "feminine" to any behavior, as that implies that more of either men or women display that behavior. Unfortunately, I have no way of knowing how common that way of thinking is- I thought it was constrained to academic and artistic circles in major urban cities, but these ideas have begun to crop up everywhere. Perhaps you're right, and they are the exception, rather than the rule, but they also seem to be the ones I keep getting caught up in discussions of male/female equity.