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Thank you for your thoughts but you sir are selling me short.

>The first mistake he made was not seeking assistance after the stabbing incident

Sadly I found no assistance. I clarified some things about the surgery decision in another comment that may enlighten you.

>going homeless was the only option

No friends, no family. I have a brother who graduated Harvard Law under Dershowitz and worked for Weinstein. My younger brother. He called the police to tell them I was suicidal and they showed up at my ex-girlfriend's house to haul me away. (I was not, and have never been suicidal).

Sadly for me but luckily for you, you have much more support.

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In your story, you are the unfortunate recipient of a shit stick from everyone:

- your brother, a successful attorney who lied to the police to commit you

- your shelter, who kicked you out randomly without cause (people who run and work at shelters are generally well-intended

- your roommate, who literally attacked you with a knife completely randomly

- your lawyer, and potentially the surgeon he recommended

- the chiropractor

- the other driver

Each is believable, especially the chiropractor, but you’re essentially the completely passive and no-fault recipient of a giant shit stick from like 7 different people in short order.

I hate to ask this but do you think it’s possible there’s some common thread here? Your past behavior, mental health, drug use (and thus being exposed to people who attack others with knives during disputes), etc?

Thank you for responding. There is a common thread (me) and it includes all of my strengths and weaknesses. But no mental health or bad behaviour or drug use in my past.

Please dont get mad but even what you have summarized about me is not accurate. It seems as if you have dramatized my setbacks because I certainly dont have such a long list of people to point fingers at?

If I seem indignant its because it feels like your model wants to kill me by statistic because I am a fat tail data point.

Underneath I have had it rough no doubt, rougher than anyone with 99% SAT and 99% GMAT (logic) deserves.

There may be a longer family history here where support networks got burned - two most common I've seen are drug use and mental health issues. Criminal justice involvement much lower on list.

For transitional job programs - you don't get kicked out w out a reason - they work with lots of people. They agree not usually as ocial workers though - program is about jobs and employers usually.

Ok to use them for mail like onboarding paperwork from employers. Because of liability and other risks (folks can be hustling etc still) usually not ok too use mail service for other reasons.

>Ok to use them for mail like onboarding paperwork from employers. Because of liability and other risks (folks can be hustling etc still) usually not ok too use mail service for other reasons.

That's it. Thank you.

This person tried to do something helpful for me by sending a care package. Had she told me upfront I would've said no dont do it. I knew the rules. I wasnt expecting her to send me anything.

Sorry - that sucks. I've done job reentry work - safest bet is to just give address to employers - they rarely send stuff anyways and def not care packages!

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