> It seems like you're looking for a reason to be a victim

That crosses into personal attack. Please don't do that in arguments here, regardless of how wrong someone is or it feels they are.

And could you please not post in the flamewar style to HN generally? https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=20473318 is an example.

https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html

It seems like you’re looking for reasons to ignore the possibility that there’s a useful distinction to be made between the two terms. That seems like a more interesting discussion to have than any involving ad hominem such as “you’re looking for a reason to be a victim”.