So how many decades were you depressed for, what got better for you, and what makes you so sure that this thing A. gets better for everyone and B. will fix their depression? Objectively, for some people, it does not ever get better. If you are being honest, then you surely know it's possible for life circumstances to get worse and worse over time until that person eventually dies. For others it will go up and down and up and down, and for others it will be pretty "meh" in perpetuity. "It gets better" has to be one of my most hated platitudes. I am glad "it got better" for you but it would be polite not to rub it around in people's faces.

Not to mention, much of a person's happiness is supposedly determined genetically. To me it seems very cruel to give people false hope and then tell them it's their own fault when it doesn't pan out the way they were promised (which seems to be the usual way of things). I've been hanging out here for 15 years for my suicidality to get better and I haven't been passive in my waiting. I've tried a wide variety of things and some help for a little while but none really stick. For how many decades must I continue to hang around before the "it gets better" types can be honest enough to admit that sometimes it doesn't?

i suspect that making the correct choices is necessary to assure this