Job applicants over 40 filtered out by employers
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I am constantly pestered by recruiters and companies to interview. I think one of the things that helps is that I trimmed my resume to omit material older than 5 years, removed unnecessary dates, and I make a point of drawing attention to studying for new industry certifications. It probably doesn't hurt that I stay physically fit, either. As cruel as it may be, if you're out of shape and look "frumpy" or "run down," that will count against you far, far worse than your age.
The key is to make the age factor irrelevant by not drawing unnecessary attention to it or by projecting a stereotypical "middle aged" image. We can argue all day about whether that's fair or not (it's not), but you have to do what you have to do.
This situation sucks, and it seems to be getting worse. Or maybe it's always been bad and it's finally been brought to light.
Yeah, it's very possible that Google doesn't know how to interview. I don't think it's a solved problem anywhere in the industry -- teams just do what seems to work for them, with lots of false positives and negatives.
* As far as I remember it was in Coders at Work (very good book btw)
If you've spent the last 10-15 years writing code every day you can review your data structures course book before an interview and do better than most fresh graduates.
Ageism is real I know lots of people >40 and >50 who hold good jobs and are also able to get good jobs if they end up being laid off for some reason. But then there are also people in their twenties who have a difficult time getting a good job for whatever reason. There are lots of factors.
You can still go on about how there is a keydown/keyup event, DNS lookups, safe-browsing lookups (Google, Firefox), cache hits or not, GPU redraws, etc etc.
It's a question for asking how much you know about which bits are flipped when anything happens. You can literally pick any bit of the pipeline and riff about it. Assuming that is you know about them.
I am still in my early 30's but this really resonated me. All my life I have been conditioned to think that character, experience and expertise is what matters.
But the reality is that people will form impressions of you by they first 5 seconds they meet you.
If I look at the engineers that we hired based on recruitment and CVs alone, they are all young, in-shape, and attractive.
This is something everyone should probably learn early on. Or at least be mentally prepared to overcome a bad first impression (which is much harder!).
The people who find candidates to interview are not the same people as the managers who decide who to hire. The fact you're getting lots of recruiters chasing you just means recruiters don't discriminate on your age; it says nothing about the hiring managers.
Perhaps this means that as a 40+ year old developer, you're more likely to get a job if you go through a recruiter, as opposed to sending your resume off on your own?
As someone who gets sent candidates by recruiters, I don't think this is true.
My spam folder says otherwise. There are still enough bad recruiters out there (or bad recruiter spam-bots) hitting me up for positions that don't remotely match any skills I've ever listed anywhere. Not worth my time.
In another comment here I mentioned an older co-worker who is retraining to front-end developer, but he was Dutch champion marathon skating a couple of years ago, so he is absolutely fit (if a bit wrinkly).
But somehow selecting for appearance and fitness for a programming job is even weirder than selecting for age.
But I have known very amazing programmers who are not so fit though. So I guess its not a very good idea to discriminate based on appearance.
Humans are tribal. For better or worse, we are attracted to those most like ourselves. All other things being mostly equal, we'll pick the person like us.
Put another way, people with experience usually like to flaunt it. No one wants to hire and over-used asshole.
Does this mean you only apply for jobs wanting 5 years experience?
With age comes maturity. It's allowed me to get along better with my co-workers (so many upper 20s, lower 30s tend to be a bit... hot headed) and I'm not afraid to negotiate. The older I've gotten, the more comfortable in my skin and in my skill set I've become.
If there's ageism I've yet to experience it and I've worked with people well in their 50s doing mobile. It comes down to who you're working for, what your skill set is, timing and, in my opinion, health. You've got to stay healthy and look healthy! Also, I tend to prune my resume, no one wants to see your experience 8+ years ago.
Or maybe it's all luck, ask me in five years what I think when Objc/Swift goes the way of PHP, I might be singing a different tune.
Is this an employee salary or contracting/consulting income?
I can say that I live in an area closer to the rural mid-west than NYC, and we consistently see 1-year contract rates for iOS developers in the low $200's, up to $280-300k if you have 8+ years of relevant domain experience (again 1-year contracts). If sandoze is consulting $200k is 100% reasonable. If they're a full-time employee, $200k is pretty high but definitely possible with their experience.
It's tempting to work in start ups. They are far more exciting, they can have an easier barrier of entry and, coming from the start up gaming industry that I was involved with when the App Store was only a couple months old (this means I'm pushing ~8 years of iOS experience), I worked my tail off. In three years I and our team released over 13 games and applications. In the five years I've been in fortune 100s we've released at best one and tend to keep the company's very first application, usually about six years old, written by a ruby dev interested in mobile, alive. It's not super interesting work but it pays well. That's where you have to draw the line. In another year or so I would leap at an opportunity to take a 100k pay cut and go back working for a start up... but am I going to keep 35-40 hour weeks? Rotating Fridays? Unlimited vacation that you actually have time to take? I suspect not and that's what makes me nervous about looking for work outside the big companies.
So you have to keep it interesting. I make games on the side and take deep dives into algorithms and concepts. I actually nailed my interview where I'm at now because of an article about Levenshtein distances on this site. I wrote it out in swift, understood it the best one can in a day. Turned out to be a great answer for the technical interview I had a week later!
I'm seeing similarly high rates for contract iOS worth (1-year contracts in the $200-250k range, in a city most folks on HN have never heard of). Is it worth trying to transition from C# where the cap seems to be in the $120-130k range?
To me they are like most people in IT/Software who work there, because no other type of job will have this kind of salary or flexibility.
Can you talk a bit more about that? Do you only list your latest 5 years of professional experience?
Many 40+ year olds have families or other life obligations outside of work, and thus they may not be as willing to put in absurd hours that a young employee could be squeezed for. The older employee also might be more likely to take weekends off, and want to use vacation time.
Additionally, someone over 40 is supposed to be in or near their peak earning years, which lasts ten to twenty more years (or did historically anyway) so their expenditure is going to be significantly more than someone with a few years of experience.
I realize it's one of the lamest analogies possible, but for many companies, employees are quite literally a cog in a larger machine, and so they want the cheapest possible cog at a reasonable quality level that works the longest before breaking down (quitting, getting fired, burning out, etc).
To fight this, I'd bet those over 40 would have to aim to get into important management and executive positions, which are less likely to be swapped out for less experienced, less demanding, and cheaper labor.
Why is this a (seemingly) common belief? It seems backwards to me. I had a lot more obligations outside of work in my 20's and 30's when my kids were young than after 40. I'm in my early 50's, and I have more free time now than ever.
I personally know tons of people in their late 30s and early 40s having their first child, or maybe their second.
It's just not very common to want a family before 30.
http://time.com/4181151/first-time-moms-average-age/
http://www.statcan.gc.ca/pub/11-630-x/11-630-x2014002-eng.ht...
http://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/2016/03/09/pregnancy-around-...
We pay 25-30 year olds $100-140+k and call then "senior" in this industry. Unless 40 year olds are asking for $200k+ in non-specialised roles, I doubt companies can't afford them.
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My hunch as to why they are getting filtered out is that people think 40+ year olds are out of touch with whatever the 20-30 year old programmers are doing and thus less skilled/able to contribute ASAP. Also there's a weird stigma for people in their 40s+ still programming (as opposed to managing/some high level position) unless they're in some world expert role at Google/Facebook/etc.
BTW, in many other upper middle class jobs, you speak in your early 50s or late 40s. Very different from tech indeed!
I'm late 50's and write code 7 days a week. I guess I'm in deep doo-doo :-)
> unless they're in some world expert role at Google/Facebook/etc.
People who hire for A-players or who hold top level position in big companies, politics etc understand there is no paradox in being old people holding top ranks saying we need young blood all across organization.
This is exactly what makes them valuable. They refuse to get sucked into the burnout dynamic.
If we go one step further, it's the result of society allowing them to "optimize for maximum productivity at the lowest possible cost to them" all other things (product quality, workplace safety, agism, sexism, environment, health safety, etc) be damned.
Addition: I think shareholders, and the shift of moral and motive center from a person or board to an blob of people is one of the worst structures that's allowing for the above.
As if that's all of them.
Not to mention the ones that are working absolutely insane hours.
Plus, making $100k/year but working 12+ hours day is worse than what just doing the division would show (that it amounts to $67/year of 8-day work) because the toll of those extra hours on personal life, health, family, personal development, opportunity cost, side business etc is not linear.
This article is from Sweden. Note that the environment and expectations are wildly different in Sweden than in e.g. the US.
I am pushing 40 and I have yet to make a 50h week. Sice I had kids 6 years ago I haven't even made a 40h week.
Obviously a few tiny startups would need the 25yo type developers to work around the clock, but those employers are so rare and so small that it should not make a difference in the statistics.
The funniest interview I had was with some blonde girl in her twenties, who read through my CV and said: "Oh, you see. We cannot send your application to our client. You see, here I have hundred of applications from people at your age, who are managers in their thirties, and you are not. There is most probably something wrong with you." And it was a position for a programmer, not a manager.
And it was when I was in my early thirties, not forties.
Currently, I'm almost 40, and I seek only for remote work (family issues). I have been paid for programming for the last 14 years. I had different jobs like sysadmin, dba, programmer; using over 10 different languages.
And despite all that searching for work is really hard. Usually, it stops at the recruiter who is only interested in an answer to "how much do you want to get?". After that, there is no counter offer, no negotiation, nothing. Sometimes there is an answer like "you want too much, but don't negotiate at this recruitment step".
When I get to the technical part of the interview, I usually get some Yeti-Level programs to write. Yeti-Level, because you are not going to write anything like that in those time restrictions in that jobs. A good example is implementing a program which gets input from a file, in the input, there are domino tiles, and a function needs to match them and find the longest chain... all must be super optimized from the beginning. And you have 5-10 minutes to do everything, including reading the task description, examples and writing tests.
The funny fact is that this company is searching for candidates for months. The sad fact is that due to such strange recruitment process, good old experienced programmers will starve.
I really think that I did very bad choice with my career. There are so many other jobs where people are not removed because of age, and experience is really appreciated. In IT you just need to accept that companies want young inexperienced kids, who want to get little figures, but a game room is a must.
Sadly, I have come to a similar conclusion: tech is a great way to earn money early (because the wages rise quickly), but the ceiling hits early and is quite hard to break through. Use those early years to save up money, then switch to something else.
Contract work has interested me since then, but it looks like a real hard slog to get good income.
Shit, that has been the BEST decision I have even made. This guy has been helping us mature in our processes and the way we do things. Before him, we were just kiddos playing the technology startup game. We knew what we were doing, but we had no idea of how a big company did things.
What 40+ people can give you is a really huge amount of experience. These guys have seen things and the majority of problems are not new for them. I am myself in 35, and still consider myself kind of a noob in a lot of real life development processes.
One of my co-workers at my current project is 47 and just learning front-end development after a career as system administrator. So they're certainly not doubting his ability to learn.
> The funny fact is that this company is searching for candidates for months.
If they can't find anyone while rejecting perfectly valid candidates, the problem is absolutely their own choice. They are clearly idiots. Sucks for you of course if all companies in your vicinity are like that.
They do want 16 years of experience, but only if they can pay you a mid-level[1] salary/rate...
[1] Mid-level -> 5-8-years of experience
Which area of the country is this?
edit: oh. Based on other comments, you're a freelancer. What companies want in a freelancer/consultant are wildly different from what companies want in a full time salaried dev.
edit2: And you live and work in Amsterdam. I hear the european job markets do indeed value experience. The American job market doesn't.
That's a red flag!
My wife (blonde) frequently gets talked down to by people who make assumptions about her intelligence.
Unfortunately, I cannot edit my first comment.
I had encountered, from time to time, a certain category of recruiters who seemed to be hunting for brogrammers. The type looking for passionate ninja rockstar hackers to work for free beer, free food, and night life in an exciting high-energy startup. These recruiters just also happened to be young blonde women in low-cut tops who were rather overplaying their ditziness. They also preferred video conference to phone calls.
My assumption is this was all quite engineered to hit their mark.
Unfortunately this isn't really unexpected. Between inexperienced kids with nothing to lose, ambitious graduates with strong short term experience, and experienced programmers specializing in one area it's hard to be competitive solely based on experience. The programming profession is very "free", but that also means you have to manage your own career and make sure that you're "selling" something that is relevant for the "buyer".
From an industry perspective the blondy is right. When you're in your mid-thirties you're expected to either to progress in your career to a role with greater responsibility, have an established career at larger companies or sell your services on the open market as a consultant/freelancer. Basically something that is using your experience. Anything else might not only not be competitive, but also a red flag.
This doesn't mean you aren't eligible for a job, just that it will be harder to find one.
(And I know that all this might sound arrogant which is why people won't really tell people how it is)
Why can't you use your experience to actually be a GOOD developper? Why do you have to manage or consult something?
Would you say the same thing to e.g. a surgeon?
And most companies only have 3-4 levels of developer before you start leading teams, mentoring, etc. Even those that specifically have architecture tracks where you can do more senior-level technical work without any management or teaching overhead will only have a few of those positions as well.
Stagnation is death, and maintaining the same position for a decade is a pretty good definition of stagnation.
That's like saying that you should divorce every few years because otherwise you seem like a bad husband... Rich people and prominents do it all the time, after all.
Btw. going this way it looks like everybody in their thirties should be a leader. Who are they going to lead then? If we have a team of 10 great programmers, one will be a manager or a team leader... does it mean the rest will never find a new job because of that?
And side projects... a family, kids, jobs, and side projects - choose three of them unless you forget about sleeping.
"Hey, I'm a great surgeon, I love my job, in my free time I make operations on other people for free, I don't sleep, but here you have documentation of my free work. And no, I'm not going to work for you for free. And yes, I'm going to work for free after work. Oh, you ask about my kids. Who cares, I have my free work to do".
Yea
I think that the secret ingredients are this:
- Open source projects (the more GitHub stars, the better).
- Tech blog (the more followers, the better).
- Experience working for at least one hot Silicon Valley startup.
- Experience working for at least one large corporation.
- Momentum: Proof that your career has been going upwards recently, not downwards or stagnating.
If you're older, they may also want:
- Proof that you're adaptable and open to criticism.
Unfortunately, it's extremely competitive and companies are obsessed with getting "The best" and they will not admit to themselves that they don't actually know what that means.
What other professions do this? Do accountants need to do pro-bono work in their spare time to be hireable? Do lawyers just sue people for fun and blog about it?
This is why I decided to start my own company again after 4 1/2 years at Square which was probably the last time I ever would be working for someone else.
This way age becomes an asset rather than a liability.
I've also been pretty fortunate to always have interesting stuff to work on while getting paid very well and always have options. People I've worked with would generally work with me again and/or want to hire me.
This is exactly the sort of thing they make better.
Seriously. Unions have been pretty violent for well over a century, as labor struggles have circulated the force of shockwaves created by obstinate dysfunction on both sides, but because of this, a collective memory of known quantities had built up.
Now, in a sudden bout of amnesia, certain mistakes are primed to repeat themselves. Others not so much, but how to guess which errors boil over first, and why, without understanding the roots of each problem?
Technology and any related social change will augment outcomes, but not always in a good way. On the one hand technology empowers mobility and learning, on the other hand, eavesdropping and misinformation.
A union won't make a company hire you. Whatever power union has, it comes after signing on the dotted line, so that particular problem would not be solved by a union.
Unlike police or muni drivers or Detroit auto works, programmers are among the most frequent job changers.
Other than Hollywood unions (where main benefit, as far as I can tell, is ensuring that you don't get taken advantage of too much at the low end thanks to minimum wages etc.) is there any example of a union for a profession where you change your employer every 2-3 years?
I know a few construction workers who essentially work for the union. A contractor will get a job, and they'll contact the different unions and say they need people to get it done.
An employer I used to work for found this out the hard way when word got out that they had hired a non-union carpenter to do some custom cabinetry on an office build out (he was an expert craftsman who was not cheap, so it wasn't done for cost savings).
Suddenly it got very hard to find workers to finish the electrical and plumbing work.
That is the whole point... a worker's only leverage is to withhold labour. As an individual that is insignificant but en masse...
Also unlike police or muni drivers, if the union makes it too expensive to continue to pay your wages and work within the constraints of the union contract, the company will either outsource your job somewhere cheaper, or it will go out of business and be replaced by a company with cheaper workers.
Detroit Auto Workers found this out when the Big Three decentralized and moved jobs out of Detroit and they were under intense competition with foreign car makers.
Actually a union can very well push for changed attitudes and laws regarding age discrimination.
Because things were good enough and a generation after Unions became a thing, people got complacent.
It is up to us to keep them being relevant to take care of our rights.
It isn't a perfect approach, but it makes it more difficult to discriminate since by the time you have a face-to-face interview with the employer you are already well along in the interview process.
"In lieu of the current situation, is it not advisable to simply not give the date of graduation and only provide the previous 5-10 years of work experience on resume?"
It seems like the point is you might be better off not listing university years or more than 5 years of experience, so your age cannot be inferred before they talk to you. Of course, 90% of people will have social media accounts that will make this useless if the employer tries hard enough.
Graduated 5 years ago. Didn't list any experience longer than 10 years ago because I didn't want anyone to think I was actually going to do Java and PHP every in my life.
Age: almost 40.
Thinking about doing a master and hiding my bachelor once I have it, it'll probably help ;)
Doesn't matter since when they'll interview you they'll find out you're not 20something -- unless you have exceptional genes.
Not to mention a few Google or FB searches and they'll not only have your age, but more than the FBI had on a target citizen in the days of Hoover.
Not trying to be in denial, but all these jobs appear to be blue collar jobs (assuming "administrators" is office admins and not Sys Admins / Network Admins :) .
Any data on whether this happens in our Tech / I.T. Industry, where every other month, you read a story on severe shortage of skilled tech workers everywhere?
In my 20 year IT career -- and I've worked mostly in tech/finance in the NYC area -- the only downturns I noticed were during the most extreme financial crisis, such as the dot com bubble (2001 -- I was at an internet startup) and the housing crash (2008 - I was at Merrill). Most of my buddies in my age group are doing quite well. Even those non-technical folks who used to complain about the age discrimination two decades when they were in their 20's, are now employed in semi-technical jobs.
Now, I'm pretty sure that the age discrimination is real in other industries, but it's still quite difficult to find qualified, experienced candidates in IT, regardless of age.
I've always been quite impressed by the writing in Primer. The dialogue is a massive departure from the clean world of Hollywood but it makes it feel far more frantic but also real.
Part of the challenge of getting a new job after 40 is deciding whether it really matters whether you're making the same or more $$ in the next job or not. Many people are unwilling to take a pay cut when they have 20 years of experience, even though the job only requires 5.
Challenge is to prove it.
We have 3 developers all nearly or over 40 cleaning up the mess done by someone who appears to have been in his early 20's. The system works, but it could have been done with a fraction of the complexity.
All the programming I've done for the last couple of years has been for personal projects. My actual job is in an Amazon fulfillment center, though.
-if you don't have any current leads, ask around. Colleagues, family, friends, people you know. Just get the word out so next time a relevant topic comes up in a conversation you're the first on their mind. Also get a profile on freelancing sites. - Don't compete on price. Offer solutions not services. - Make a portfolio of your projects, even personal ones and talk about your role in those projects, goals, outcomes etc. - listen to freelancers podcasts - art of value is a good one. - get to know people in complementary fields like designers. Your source of leads could be from a business, an agency or a designer.. even copy writers. - start on a paid gig. Personal projects are alright but developers need paid gigs in their portfolios. - start now, somewhere, anywhere. Some people never start.
If you are beyond these tips already, great. If not, wish you the best of luck!
As a hypothetical employer I might think these roles are lesser roles, so if you are older I would wonder why you had not been able to secure a greater economic situation.
Second, as consumer facing roles, attractiveness is a benefit, with those over 40 having less of it. It is not discrimination on the basis of age, but attractiveness that would be the cause.
The worst part about this is that it's somewhat rooted in truth in a lot of cases - but it shouldn't be a preclusion to an interview at least. I try to view things as objectively as possible and give objective examinations to avoid this kind of bias.
With consumer-facing roles, I think that is an acceptable bias to have. After all, the courts have ruled that Hooters can discriminate on basis of gender for their consumer facing roles (not back end such as chefs though). For joe schmoe engineer that only writes code and rarely/never talks to the end user though there is no excuse.
I'd argue not. Hooters - and modeling agencies, nudie bars, and so on - actually have a business based on how their employees look. Stores, offices, and so on? The truth is that it doesn't matter. Unlike Hooters, they wouldn't lose a large base of their customers.
Another talking point: the trend of waiting until late 30's to have kids greatly compounds this problem.
I've changed jobs three times since I was 40, but in all cases I knew people at my new employer who could sell me internally.
I don't think it's so much age as it is that employers don't want to take as much risk on an unknown person for more senior level positions.
I noticed you mentioned LinkedIn in another thread. FWIW I don't have an account and it didn't appear to hurt me.
Open question - is there any research on to what degree these three worries are true?
There's some cognitive decline, but it tends to start after 25 or so, and it's mostly associated with slowed speed per se rather than learning ability. There's also some controversy in that the declines might be associated with serious health conditions, that are associated with age, rather than age per se.
The other things you mention either stay the same or increase with age, which strikes people as kind of counter-intuitive, which speaks to stereotypes people have.
Job applications generally don't and possibly can't ask about age, but it's a required field on applications for YC or other incubators.
Personally I would strongly prefer that resume's I review were anonymized and all hints that might bias me were removed before any decisionmaker see's them or they are filtered. This could help more women and minorities get a foothold at that step in the process (I mean generally, not with me specifically).
However, while relatively simple censoring of resumes would remove some bias from review, such as race (can often be hinted at by the name or university attended), gender, etc, and it would prevent googling of the person's name, age is extremely hard to hide. You can see a person's job history, which is generally will tell you their age within +-5 years. One partial solution might be to only list job history for the previous 10 years and remove the year a degree was earned, but relative seniority at the beginning of that 10 year work history will still be a very effective proxy for determining age.
So, unfortunately I think we can't hide age in an effective way without removing critical information from a resume (removing everything else we can that can be removed should be removed or hidden), but I think it's interesting to speculate on why older workers will be filtered out. I suspect it is a belief (or intuition aka unconscious belief) that someone applying for junior or entry level positions when they are > 40yo is correlated with 'something being wrong', since if there is nothing wrong you would have expected them to have reached a point in their career that they no longer have to blindly submit resumes for these kinds of positions.
I wonder what would happen in a study like this if the resume's representing older hypothetical candidates included some kind of cover letter explaining the situation. For example, saying that they started out working at a bank for 15 years but they found a passion for cooking and that is why they only have 5 years of experience as a chef. My guess would be that not only would this undo the bias against them, but you would find a strong bias towards them (just a guess).
Might this be a clue?
Any job application which is in the reaches of an automated process must be a joke endpoint. How many other automated applications do they get selling employee skills, sex, penis enlargement pills, fast loans, malware and other trash.
Disclosing information should be the first "BS" smell for a job. I'm often well into getting work done before the person I'm working with figures out how old I am, where I live or other personal details. Granted, that's freelancing.
I live in the Philippines where the age requirements are actually advertised. And these ages seem pulled out of a hat. And I get the sense that people running the show at all levels couldn't tell their asses from a hole in the ground. It's a pleasant surprise to find someone who seems competent at convincing you that there's some purpose for them taking up a spot at that spot or role they are taking up in a serious time commitment out of their life.
Clearly the hiring process is just as broken as everything else. Why expect that hiring is going to be significantly more awesome than the rest of the system?
Don't interact with machines. Get to know real people. Show people what you can do. Preferably find people who tell you they could use your help rather than you telling them that you need a job. ;)
That said, there are qualifications and there's "fit." The more experience you have, the stronger the signal on what you might (or might not) enjoy.
For example, if you're 40+ and most your resume says startup, do you really expect a blue chip international to be interested in you? Do you really want them to be? Sure, maybe YOU really need a job. But history probably shows you'll leave as soon as you can land another startup opportunity.
Again, not doubt there's bias in the hiring process. But bias can have a purpose. And sometimes you have to live with the depth and breadth of your CV.
This is why I decided to start my own company again after 4 1/2 years at Square.
This way age becomes an asset rather than a liability.
Do I think I will fit into a young crowed who have absolutely no social circles outside of work in their 20's now? The answer is no. Do I get approached by startup's to start some new fancy facebook clone every 2-3 weeks? The answer is 'yes' but I decline their offer's.
I'm fairly sure those criteria are all illegal, at least in most U.S. states if not at the federal level.
Also, it's a huge leap to say that discrimination is motivated by profits. I have no idea how you worked that one out.
Care to provide examples? Also I've never heard of engineers being interviewed on ethic principles.
During the teenager years, (if) the business is still profitable and hasn't bankrupt itself the business owner start noticing the need for formal operation procedure manuals. They've either felt the pain of the lose of key developer and or customer and they to secure their position within the market place. Typically this is where in one form or another organisation charts come into existence and more formal documentation and processes start. Either in this time/frame you have HR/Sales/Support starting to take form.
During the maturity years, most of the teenager years of formalizing and documentation of procedures manual is in full swing. You have well defined organisation charts with formal processes to follow and legal department to sign off on new contracts. You have the existence of Managers of each department to coordinate the necessary sales goals, and marketing goal for the business.
In each of the three different phase you have cultural shifts. From young and dream focused. Then the shift during teenage years of reigning in the younger attitudes and formal processes. Then finally to the maturing phase where for better or worse a more mechanical and empirical processes of doing business.
NYC and SF are also notable outliers, and aren't representative of 'any major metropolitan areas'.
In some major metros, $120k is struggling to pay the rent on an okayish family-sized apartment in a below-average school district with an hour-plus public transit commute, with homeownership maybe creeping into the realm of possibility by making extreme sacrifices to save for 15-20 years for a down payment.
So yes, barely middle class.
But even a sacrifice of 100% of my discretionary income wouldn't put homeownership or childrearing (extra bedroom + good school district or private tuition) within reach. Certainly not both. Maybe I'll get to pick one on this salary if I ever see liquidity on my equity, but really I'm holding out for making a much higher salary in 10-20 years.
It's a fun thing to do with my early 20s. But I understand the presumption that a middle-aged man would not take this salary, as it'd be pretty damn difficult to rent more than a studio. Even the studio is extravagant: several of my peers of similar age have roommates. A family is certainly below middle class if it has to share an apartment with other families.
Then it sounds like your salary is great.
> But even a sacrifice of 100% of my discretionary income wouldn't put homeownership or childrearing (extra bedroom + good school district or private tuition) within reach.
Middle class doesn't mean you get all that without effort. You have to budget, you have to shop around for the right neighborhood, you may not have the option of spending money on a whim, your partner may need to find a job, but $120,000 is more than enough to buy a great home in a good neighborhood, it just won't be one in the heart of the city.
> Even the studio is extravagant: several of my peers of similar age have roommates
Right ... you're living in an expensive studio apartment in the city, you have to move when you want to start a family unless you're making much more money than a typical senior level engineer.
What? Let's suppose I could save $1,000/mo over 10 years, giving me a $120k down payment. (After retirement savings and $3k rent, this would leave me about $1000/mo in discretionary spending, including groceries).
The figure that maxes out a debt-to-income of .36 is $3526/mo, corresponding to a home value of around $640k.
For two bedrooms, that's a fixer-upper far from transit in a bad part of any East Bay BART stop town. And that's today: run the last 10 years of increases out another 10 years.
You're making my argument for me: $120k is "you can't afford to live there" territory, i.e. barely if even middle class, for the vast majority of software engineering jobs that would pay it to junior engineers.
Therefore it's reasonable to think middle-aged engineers would not take it, and that it would be a waste of time to interview them if that's your salary ceiling.
Of course $120k is great money and $640k is a great house in some places. These are not the same places where junior engineer salary ~ senior engineer salary ~ anywhere near $120k. They would pay more like $60k to the junior and $80k to the senior.
https://www.sokanu.com/careers/software-engineer/salary/
These jobs are all over the country, that's just a fact, even excluding remote positions.
> The context of this thread is paying senior engineers the same as juniors, around $120k, which implies an expensive coastal city.
I never said anything about juniors, I said that seniors often make around $120k already and at some point there are diminishing returns on the business value of seniority for engineers. If my company is paying the senior engineering staff around $120k/ea why would we then pay a new-hire $180k because they have 25 years of experience when they likely produce work of a similar quality to our engineers with 15 years. I'd be much better off hiring a new engineer at $120k and using the difference to provide raises to my core engineering team that hold onto critical business process experience. Of course, exceptional candidates can command an exceptional salary, but they're the exception by definition.
$120k seems unrealistically above market, even for a seasoned old pro, in such places. Am I off base?
Of course if you're paying it there, then it's an extremely lucrative gig. But as far as I can tell, there are maybe a few hundred such positions in the country.
Of course I'd love to make $120k from somewhere that buys a nice house. That is, far as I can tell, not an option. I can save while living in a high COL city and then buy a house for cash in a low COL city, but I'd still need a job to pay property taxes/groceries/transportation. In cheap areas, the pickings are slim.
The median income in San Francisco is $78k. The 25th percentile is $141k. To be in the 10%, you need $238k.
http://www.businessinsider.com/the-salary-of-the-top-earners...
I don't think this works as an explanation.
https://www.theregister.co.uk/2015/01/16/silicon_valley_415m...
If they cared about cheap, they'd be willing to take on tradeoffs like communication overhead with satellite offices in low COL areas, potentially increased risk of a bad hire by making the interview pass rates higher, etc.
Even if you want a particular engineer very badly and money is no object, you're going to offer just enough to beat his next best offer. You're not going to 10x it. That would be waste.
Also, cheap is relative. $120k/year sounds like a lot, and it is a lot. But relative to the value provided it's pretty small. Also, these companies work together to suppress wages. It helps that so many willingly play the "work for free" game by contributing to these companies' open source code with no compensation. Workers in SV are cheaper than their salaries make it appear.
I suspect the upper management really doesn't want to move because they already have nice spots in SV.
Companies want to hire professionals in their prime, and look at anybody else as a second grade cadre.
Do you list projects, companies, time spans?
If you apply to a "regular" job, how are those references checked?
I work fifteen hours a day, can't stop learning and trying new technologies to keep myself on top of the wave.
First off, companies like Cisco, Microsoft and Oracle, and even Google, are running entirely off of the centralized education system in the US. These are companies that got their software into curriculum and taught everyone their way of doing things, then engaged in shoving their software and a lot of labor into large organizations making a gargantuan mess that was glossed over with lots of "free overtime". Compare Cisco CLI to Juniper, or Microsoft to Debian, or MS SQL to Oracle; who's going in who's direction.
Why?
If you made the investment in understanding exclusively those companies products you went along the technological imperialism trip and now that you're on the other side, and you never spend time understanding the theory or building critical thinking skills, you're washed up. 20 years working on a massive oracle mainframe or with purely Cisco R&S becomes a liability, the reason being, you never tried to find a better way to do things or try to eliminate your job and replace it with something better.
There's an honesty in Meritocracy; The market has always valued the independent thinking, hard-working, incredibly knowledgeable IT staff with a tremendous depth of understanding of infrastructure, programming, politics, and equipment over what 95% of the IT market has become. 95% of the people I've worked with expect the solution to be in some arcane google search result or in a book; they don't expect to go on the journey of finding the answer. What they never develop is real creativity, a real understanding of the systems they work with, or a real understanding of the architecture, why things are done, or the process of how to build on themselves; to set a path for themselves and others that that eventually brings about a finished product.
The entire IT industry is maturing and getting older and as they do, older staff that haven't done this is viewed as a liability. I'll agree, there's all kinds of ways to try to hire gullible people who don't know their own self-worth. Fact is though, those kinds of companies are on a long-term death spiral of their own making. Every time a large corp outsources, I go look at the 10-k and I see a major cash flow problem of managements making. "The old cranky sysadmin way" is beginning to take at more and more companies and that will trickle into academia as time goes on as management begins to understand what technological imperialism means and what the results are; generally, a total mess.
It's a very controversial thing to say these things because it makes a lot of people who aren't that good, or who invested their time in the wrong things feel like they are doomed. Fact is, there's no set career path in IT like there is in other fields like Attorneys and Lawyers, Stock Brokers, Research scientists and Academia.
The trick I've discovered is to put in no more than 40hrs a week at work, and if overtime is needed, come home and practice, do architecture work, learn algorithms, make good notes, read programming and architecture and project management books. 40hrs a week is for work, 10-20hrs a week is for self-betterment. Then you come into work, and find ways to eliminate your job. A new approach that saves butt loads of time. Get your assignments done early, then either come up with a new project to work on, move on, or study. Within a few years of doing this, you will be a top-tier programmer\architect\systems admin, whatever you want to do.
And while I do feel for people who feel they've fallen behind due to having a family, the fact is from my perspective, the real issues with society are things like 21% of GDP being spent on a scummy healthcare industry, or high incomes of the top 1%, or lack of wage parity tariffs on imports from China. The baby boomers have really messed things up for us. The fact you can't go from a high paying IT job to a factory job or retail management position and still have enough money to put your family in a decent home with 3 hots and a cot and to put your kids through school and college is a failure of society in general, not the IT industry. Those issues need fixed and frankly, contribute a heck of a lot to our messed up society.
It is convenient to place blame for personal issues on some anonymous discriminatory entity (which may as well be real and not imaginary), but there must be things one can do to better themselves, especially in such high demand, unstoppable industry that we're in.
It is best to focus on finding ways to stay afloat (or even control your drift) than wail and sink.
It is absolutely bizarre how people have mythologised the factory jobs of yesteryear. Apparently there were no poor people, and the baby boomers invented poverty.
Technology and mobile/web/games are still young industries, in all new industries they start/skew younger. Radio for instance was young at inception but is now older in terms of age, it takes a couple decades for people to decide it is worth pursuing or starting in.
Being a web developer has only been around for 20 years and being a mobile developer only a decade truly (smartphone era). People are going to skew younger here and more coders are 40-50 and younger. As time goes on this will change and skew older. Incidentally because it is a young industry, there is a large divide of people that grew up with the internet and ones before, same on mobile. I think that hangs over the age thing. Older people used to be bad at tech but most people in their 40s even grew up with it or used it very young. Many of my older coder friends started with commodore 64s, Apple IIs and had to find answers before Google, they are now mobile/game/app/web developers. Many of them are more knowledgeable than younger coders today may ever be because they were in the time when everything was being built and the layers were easier to see. There is tons of cruft for a young coder to navigate and once you get out of college (22-24) or masters (27-30) and work for 5-10 years and get your head around this skill, they call you too old, it is a bit cruel but goes back to the young industry bit.
On the brightside, our industry is also unique, we can break out on our own and still compete enough to provide a living. In other industries and lines of work, the costs to startup are immense and risky, bootstrapping is easier in technology. Either in freelance or software as a service or starting something, there is always an option if you keep coding/building/shipping/solutions. Programming is a meta skill like business and marketing that allows you to literally go into almost any industry.
Most people in tech around their late 30s or 40s want to start their own thing and that is a benefit. Young developers may be too uncomfortable doing that because of their confidence and experience. Even lawyers and doctors, if they don't start their own practice, put up with the same push around that everyone else does as they age and get experience. What you need to do is find your own vehicle around this time so you can navigate the waters with a little more command.
Just ship and build things, don't get caught up in the averages. There is a lack of coders still that can deliver from start to live, in fact this situation appears to be getting worse. Provide that and you will always be marketable.
Side note: if you are over 40, I'd suggest paying for your own individual independent insurance. I feel health insurance is another pressure on older engineers in startups at least. I have seen at least two guys get run out based on health conditions and age. Once health insurance is separated from the job, ageism is less intense at these types of places.
Life is challenging for me now, and this article directly applies to me. Oh, and there's that thing about being a white male and suicide. Now imagine being a kind of intimidating looking type in a very non white anti trump area.
Tribalism is real. Had I stuck with my tribe early on I'd be more secure. My demise is probable at this time.
I am solid in my desire to self terminate yet lack the ability to overcome fear of death. I stay alive but it's closer than ever. It's almost a humane thing to let me go. I wouldn't wish my brain on anyone.
Good luck all.
Also, are you over 40?
Tech is hard; startups are harder; legal problems are even harder. But these things change, and the feelings can change too. You can PM me if you want to chat.
At 50 I was screwed out of a company that I spent 10 years building by a greedy partner. He later sued me in federal court for telling other people what he did to me. Even though all the charges were totally made up it cost me 40 thousand to defend my self (money I did not have). I finally managed to get him to drop the suite and pay all my bills by giving him a patent he wanted. And this was all before a judge ever even looked at the case.
So hang in there, find joys in the small things like life until it passes. I am a better man for having gone through all of this, but I would not wish it on anyone.
Not to mention, much of a person's happiness is supposedly determined genetically. To me it seems very cruel to give people false hope and then tell them it's their own fault when it doesn't pan out the way they were promised (which seems to be the usual way of things). I've been hanging out here for 15 years for my suicidality to get better and I haven't been passive in my waiting. I've tried a wide variety of things and some help for a little while but none really stick. For how many decades must I continue to hang around before the "it gets better" types can be honest enough to admit that sometimes it doesn't?
Poverty makes you worry. You ask yourself questions like how you will pay the rent next month, how to buy affordable food, how to deal with social deprivation because of lack of money. That worrying paralyzes, and destroys so much potential.
This is the University of Kentucky Center for Poverty Research.
There are literally 1000s of hours of research and writing to match.
University of Washington (in my backyard) also has a poverty research center.
A central take away, if you don't feel like reading is that poverty makes everything else in life at least 2x harder. It's like compounding interest on debt.
That research is one reason I support universal basic income.
On the other hand, worrying and doubting makes one submissive, and there are people who profit from having others working for them. So, I expect strong opposition to universal basic income.
Our brain tricks us, and makes sometimes living very hard. I'm just telling you this, because knowing the fact that we are just feeling what our brain (=we, as sentient being) is creating as emotion might help.
Why don't you give yourself another go by trying to live another life somewhere else, doing something else? If you don't want to continue your life as it is right now, then you will get exactly what you want.
Anyway, I get what you mean.
Of course, if you are pretty, people seemingly everywhere will react in certain ways to it. If you are abrasive, likewise, you will get according reactions.
That is often not fair, and on top of it, often we misspresent our feelings, and/or are missinterpreted. I don't particularly like the way humans are social. Nevertheless, recognizing the quirks is important, even though one might despise them. It's sounds a bit antisocial-personality-disorderly, but it is not.
Do you have an idea where stuff fails and goes downward?
I know for myself — as I did experience on my own — that some experiences can change you, and thus change others reaction to you.
Why don't you try to go where peoples social behaviour is fundamentally different? It might sound super weird now, but I went to a BDSM community, and it gave me air to breath. I met there some of the most decent and pleasure-to-deal-with people. I'm not recommending that to you, but it might give inspiration. I don't know your surroundings, but I bet that there are places where the social norm is vastly different, and that might help.
Other commonly-repeated bad advice includes:
* Try exercising.
* Go hiking -- when you're one with nature, life's troubles with seem insignificant.
* Force yourself out of bed and go take on the world! (aka "chin up, buster!")
There's just one good and true advice: Please seek help.
"There's just one good and true advice"
People are different. Some of the advice which you say is bad, is actually wonderful for some people.
It doesn't sound like good advice if you're depressed, it sounds like an anxiety inducing platitude.
It's an especially evil piece of advice when offered to friends and family. Many depressed people lack the physical energy and willpower to put themselves through the psychiatric system, again and again, without any support. If I believed in hell I think there would be a special place in it for people who tell their loved ones to "seek help" when those loved ones are currently, by telling them, trying to seek help.
Honestly sometimes it gets to the point that I don't even want to spend time around other people unless they are equally chronically depressed, because you can't have an honest conversation with people who aren't. They either go into pollyanna mode or tough love mode and neither come from a place of actual connection and understanding. I think it's too scary for them to try to understand so they don't really try, and we get a multitude of platitudes that don't do anything except maybe make the giver feel better about themselves for doing a "good deed". If you explain why the platitudes don't help they usually just get mad. I think suicidal people spend more time doing emotional labor for non-suicidal people than the other way around. And then they call us selfish for leaving when we've finally had enough.
[0] https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/theory-knowledge/201603...
I wish I could double down vote you.
I've been like this for the majority of my life and my circumstances have deteriorated significantly over the past 18 months. I don't want "emergency services". That's part of the problem; people are afraid to speak up due to not only the stigma but also the risk of having someone misinterpret the situation and presume there's some acute risk, when there isn't.. which only complicates the situation.
I'm homeless and broke, on top of a shit ton of other problems. I've been suicidal for most of my life. My career prospects are bleak. What exactly do you believe your efforts, while well intentioned, will achieve? I assure you that you'd not only complicate my situation further, you'd probably make it worse.
My point was that statistically it's becoming more likely that, at some point in the future, I will be at risk for completing suicide. Wanting help and wanting to be dead don't have cross over or gray areas in some cases. Please don't invade my privacy. I've had enough of that already.
Show: The Positive Mind Host: Armand DiMele Title: Shame and Suicide Description: Armand discusses the correlation between suicide and shame. Also, how people deal with feeling inadequate and lonely. Topics: shame vs. embarrassment, accountability and judgement, social phobia, cultural differences and expectations
-understand myself better.see book "please understand me II", David Keirsey.check a copy on gen.lib.rus.ec
-improve my perception processes."Conceptual Blockbusting: A Guide to Better Ideas", James L. Adams.you can check a copy for any book on prev website
-start to observe and enjoy the details in even the most "mundane" things(like a rock) around me.the "diskworld" series,terry pratchet
-any time i feel like going i begin starving&dehydration myself.in 1 month you go.see "the great starvation experiment",todd tucker
I think a large part of it might be modern individualism and globalism. You are right, for better or worse tribalism is real. They say about half of happiness is genetic (I guess we just lost the lotto here) but strong community bonds are known to be a major component of "environmental" happiness. I left my "tribe" too, probably very common nowadays when all the good jobs are in a few cities. It's at the point now where I've moved around so much I don't really know if I can say I have a tribe or if I ever did. I'm trying to fix that now, to integrate myself into a strong community, but it's very hard. Would not bother if not for husband, I'd rather just lay down and sleep forever. It all just feels like a lot of work for not much payoff.
I dunno what else to say, I guess you have to pick a path and go with it. If you still fear death it's probably a sign you're not quite ready so I guess you may as well double down and keep trying. It's not like it really matters if it burns you out to the point of no return, if your other option was to kill yourself anyway.
I'm 27 and have half the problems you have. I'm not homeless yet, and I'm not facing a felony charge, though the former is just a matter of time.
I do wish I could eliminate what I know that depresses me too much to maintain hope. But the hand I've been dealt will yield constant decline, and it's already begun. It's likely that my circumstances will continue to fail, and I sadly am just intelligent enough to see the compounding variables and not disciplined enough to push through and stay afloat much longer.
Our preferences and inclinations are shaped by our limitations.
It's not that you can't rent yourself and survive. Give in to the circumstances and scrape each day on scraps until incarceration or sedation from monotony. It's that what you are underneath won't bend to fit that mold without breaking.
Am I anywhere near the mark? That's what it feels like for me, but perhaps it's far wide for you. I'm sorry for your pain. You've made it this far, and that warrants respect so I will give it. I too fear death, because I've seen it myself. Not in a hospital, and not in a battlefield. I was the leaf of a dying branch, and now I just float until I decay. I hope I make it as long as you.