I'm the same age as you, 34 (single and have no kids though), and like tostitos1979, I don't yet see a way out of the rat race. I live in a medium CoL city (Chicago) and still trying to make ends meet.
To answer the first question, I see myself with a decent paying job that has 401(k) and benefits in 5 years. Sounds average, like a typical college student's goal, but I still feel like a college student in some ways. I graduated at age 25 and 9 years later I am not able to make a living for myself.
I have been burnt out from companies paying so far below the local market rate, going through several periods of time with no work only to get another offer form a company that doesn't pay well, doesn't provide insurance, don't withhold taxes for their workers. And then getting laid off again. I'm spinning my wheels here. I cannot save money with that kind of thing going on indefinitely.
In 5 years I also do not want to be living with my mom. I want to have my own home, being able to set my own rules instead of running errands every day for family. And in 5 years I do not want to use her money to go to a coffee shop almost daily because that is the only way I can get internet access (and thus the only way I can send lots of resumes for a job).