Then let her. Would you want to be forced to talk to someone? My benchmark is "What would I feel if my father did this".
Maybe you should think, "What would I feel if my father did this while I was screaming at him, throwing objects at him, and hitting him?"
Little kids don't grasp a situation that good. If you don't expect them to have an adult brain, it's a lot easier to deal with them. Your emotions are generated by what you think is true - if you think that the little brat is hitting you just for the lulz, then you will get very angry.
wait, and try again later. kids don't hold grudges forever.