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My fiance recently graduated in psychology, and we have two kids. This article basically mirrors our current sentiment of how we want to raise our kids.

I have one thing to add: Don't beat yourself up if you fail to do it right. After things escalated, talk to the kid honestly, tell her what you felt, and ask her what she felt. And try to do it better the next time over.

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What if the kid has no interest in talking to you?

Then let her. Would you want to be forced to talk to someone? My benchmark is "What would I feel if my father did this".

Maybe you should think, "What would I feel if my father did this while I was screaming at him, throwing objects at him, and hitting him?"

Little kids don't grasp a situation that good. If you don't expect them to have an adult brain, it's a lot easier to deal with them. Your emotions are generated by what you think is true - if you think that the little brat is hitting you just for the lulz, then you will get very angry.

wait, and try again later. kids don't hold grudges forever.

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