Herpes Simplex. If you get cold sores, you have Herpes Simplex. It's not the STD version.
As for HSV-2:
-More than 80% of people with herpes are undiagnosed
-Overall prevalence by the time people reach their forties is 26%.
-In the general population, one-fifth of women and 11.5% of men are infected.
http://commonhealth.wbur.org/2011/04/latest-genital-herpesAddition: while oral sex often goes unprotected (HSV-1), HSV-2 transmits also with condoms during sexual penetration. Skin-on-skin contact in unprotected areas is enough for the virus to transmit. However, because of the motion and friction condoms protect women better than men.[1]