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She can grok the startup idea - its a simple, revenue generating idea that is just a slow-build type of thing. Its the risk of a startup she doesn't support, especially when continuing with the safe, risk-free fulltime job seems to make so much "sense".

This is true in my experience - there are so many mini-failures in developing a startup that having someone there applying pressure at those low-points can be incredibly devestating to my morale. Its always an easy attack because it consumes a lot of time, has not produced real money and is considered risky - i.e. I cannot defend the idea except with solid numbers or return.

Thanks for your comment, I upvoted but wanted to respond - I believe the lack of support is very likely related to practical issues you mentioned especially the lack of family time and uncertainty about the outcome of the startup. Its apparent the way forward is to address each of these issues.

I appreciate the comments, I can see things a little differently now. In my case she has some directionless (slacker) men in her extended family and I think her perception is that you either work hard full-time in a job or you are a slacker like them.

The most important issue here I realise is stability as we have a young family, mortgage etc and the salaried job makes everything easy to manage on a monthly basis.

I would readily give up the startup idea for my family, so in this equation, the lowest priority is the startup - but it still burns a hole in me night and day thinking about it and the potential.

I guess the easiest way to eliminate most of the unanswered questions is to chip away to a level of profit somewhere close to my salary in my spare time and only if that happens, revisit the idea of going full-time. Fortunately, it might prevent me from chasing a bad idea before its proven.

On a side note, I was not expecting such insightful feedback on a "software" issue like this - but its very much appreciated.