throwawy2323

Sadly, if someone wants to find information there is enough online without needing to help them with social media. My parents have never had a social media account and I deleted mine years before I had an issue with someone who found out not only where I lived but my parents as well. (and having 20+ years in the software industry, I'm aware of how things work). Doing a simple search isn't that difficult to get the addresses. Though, it was probably a tracking device and considering the later disabling of important drive functions that my long time mechanic had no answer for except to not charge me hours of work looking at it and telling me to just get what I could for it, I lean towards tracking device. Staying off social media helps, but when someone wants to harass another, I think not being easily online just made it more fun for him. At least I would find the challenge more gratifying.

> If you are a guy, ask your sister or mother how they would feel if this was happening to them.

I would change this to asking if it has happened, I'd bet it has happened to far more females in one's life than people realize. But since it hasn't (or maybe it has) escalated to violence people don't think much of it.

I unsuccessfully told a couple people before about a guy that was harassing me in a similar fashion, who 'coincidentally' knew where my parents lived and they were having a rash of break-ins and thefts at that same time. I had the misfortune of leaving my parents house while he was walking by far from anywhere he was known to stay. My place was in a large apt building and would not have been an easy target except for waiting for and watching me get home, usually weekends around 2-3am.

The guy (who was living on other peoples couches) would start showing up in mutual social spaces with new things at that time, clothes & gear etc. He ended up doing far worse to my car and I was getting the feeling he was tracking it since he seemed to know where I was. I slowly avoided going to the social spaces, in return he spread malicious lies about me (which I learned of later after much confusion) causing acquaintances to start ignoring me, to being outright rude without explanation. I no longer saw the space as a social outlet. I told a close friend of mine who dismissed it as me being paranoid. So I told a therapist who question if maybe I had other stressors that would make me not see things clearly. A little while later, I ran into one of the people I would talk to on occasion in that space and he asked me about the rumors, I had no idea what he was talking about. I respect the hell out of him for being brave enough to ask me about it, unlike others who stopped talking to me or became actively rude. My last update about the people there was that he had a falling out with my harasser and his group. They were friends.

How did it end? Haven't seen or heard from the harasser in awhile, I don't know why he stopped, but I know it stopped shortly after I received my concealed carry license and started carrying. This wasn't a big step for me since I've shot guns all my life. I never wanted to keep guns in my city apt. This is really not an option for most women (or people outside the US), I'm quite confident with all manner of firearms and have no issues with the thought of lethally defending myself. That is not true for many females.