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Previously, I was a team lead in developer productivity at LinkedIn and data engineering at MachineZone (YC 08). In another life, I learned Korean and spied on North Korea for the US Army (read: Cryptologic linguist). I have also lived and worked in South Korea and Japan.
It was a bit of hyperbole, but I think you'd be surprised how undifferentiated people's pallets can be if they aren't eating something constantly.
I should have qualified that to randomly selected Americans/Europeans. And that they could understand each type of rice is different but wouldn't have a clue which is which.
All you can do is look for places where you can make a contribution and keep an eye out for places that could matter in the future. No one knows what will matter in a few years, but it's often apparent what won't make a difference (the well-trodden path).
Millions of amateur artists and musicians spend hours daily working on their craft without ever noticeably improving past an intermediate learner's level.
I'm sure it's excellent, but in the end, it's just rice. A blind taste test would be random noise. I sure can't remember there being a material different in the rice I ate in Japan vs good Japanese food in Cali.
Hell, even if you included jasmine or basmati, I'll bet most western people wouldn't even be able to tell those apart from Japanese short-grained rice.
Edit: western people
They only give you a blob of data you can run.
If you have a M6 MacBook/ipad pro it’ll run your AI queries there if you’re on the same network in two-four years.
Some people view house keepers the same way. “I can’t let someone going through and touch all of my personal belongings. That’s just creepy.”
There’s a wide range of what people find creepy and also what people can and do get used to.
I view this as just extending that to custom reactions and making them more flexible expanding their range of uses.
Which links to
https://www.pdasociety.org.uk/what-is-pda-menu/what-is-deman...
This is something I struggle with but didn't have words for either.
It's a constant struggle to keep healing.
Second step is to allow the possibility that even supportive parents can still make mistakes that negatively impact your ability to do the things you want to do. Neglect has nothing to do with the kind of person your parents are. This is not a moral judgement of your parents.
Third is to learn about and to accept and rely on your emotions. This is where I'm at and it's a long process, but the sooner you get started the soon you become unstuck.
Also, no one remembers neglect. How can you remember something you didn't have?
Good people can neglect things. Maybe they had an uncle/aunt who was supportive in a certain way so they didn't know they need to support they own children in that way. Or maybe they had their own issues they were working through and just didn't have the bandwidth or capacity to give something or other to their children. Again neglect is not a moral judgement.
Personally, I was physically taken care of but had an overly permissive parent who treated me like a roommate rather than a child and that was enough to cause decades of suffering and not understanding why I couldn't do things other people found easy and natural.
All that time I thought my neglect had given me strength and resilience. But it just made me inflexible and obstinate.
It's taken more than 10 years (mostly because we didn't know anything about anything emotional until recently and therefore couldn't get her help), but she's finally getting past a lot of the symptoms you mention.
To your parents, I would say even procrastination isn’t intentional it’s the symptom, not the cause.
Is that where that came from? It sounds right.
I used to wear nice hats regularly including a couple of fedoras, but I had to retire them because of this.