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But on a purely biological note, natural selection favors just that: those who make more babies than anyone else, who then go on to make more babies than any of their contemporaries, etc etc etc.
For instance, I don't particularly care about being naked in front of people, but when I feel like I'm being objectified/letched on, that makes me uncomfortable, regardless of my state of dress.
edit: never mind, the flyer talk pics are much better.
However, when it is unavoidable (happens at smaller airports when there are fewer lines in my experience), I just stop in front of it and say in my most polite sweet little thing voice "no thank you" or "I don't want to go through the radiation scanner" when I'm told go through it. I've had people try and tell me it's safe and (gently?) badger me into doing it (at which point sometimes I try and offer a reason, but mostly I just say "I don't care"), but every time I've been on my toes enough to refuse, I've gotten the patdown instead. The TSA folks have sometimes gotten kinda freaked out/uptight or antsy, but it generally blows over pretty quickly and 80% of the time doesn't take much longer than the regular screening. The rest of the time, it takes them 15 minutes to find another lady agent to do the patdown, so I always start through security a little sooner if I can't see separate lines for a metal detector-only screening.
I also refuse to go to the 'private' screening area. If they're going to grope me, I'd rather it be in public in full view of everyone else.
I am a voracious reader (generally 2-5 novels/equivalent per week, depending) and love ebooks. Carry 5 long novels, 3 YA series, 4 non-fiction books, my work literature, and an assortment of my favorite comfort/pickmeup novels/short stories/essays with me constantly and instantly searchable? Yes please.
My rebuttal to your second point is to acknowledge that you have part of a point, but also to draw a comparison between the futility of policing digital sharing and the futility of policing fanwork. Since we're (sortof) making a 'in a perfect world' wishlist, I think we can do better than fall into the same traps that current law/lawmakers/our assorted predecessors fell into, criminalizing behavior that is entirely or mostly harmless and where enforcement has minimal benefits.
With your other examples, I think that there is a case to be made on both sides with regards to the dangers vs the benefits from enforcement. But with those cases, I can more clearly see the arguments that enforcement has benefits that are worth the difficulty (depending on how damaging you think pot, gambling, and car accidents are). So I could see where a person would argue that noncommercial fanwork is severely enough damaging to the creator/rights holder to make enforcement worth it, but I personally don't see it as such and would have a very hard time believing such arguments without strong proof. Car accidents where someone is not wearing a seatbelt, on the other hand, has pretty demonstrable damages.
(I'm not really going to get into pot or gambling, because I think ath this point, the arguments for and against pot criminalization are well-established, and starting to weight every-so-slightly toward decriminalization, and I personally find gambling distasteful and boring and don't have the energy to read up on the damages associated with gambling or the benefits associated with enforcement of anti-gambling laws.)
tl;dr Practice practice practice.
Then there is the tone of "No, there could not possibly be a problem with US" that permeates so many comments on this thread. There are very few voices that are even willing to entertain the idea that there is an aspect of this culture that is unwelcoming or hostile to women.
And finally, there are all the comments that seem to be saying that who cares why there is a strong gender imbalance in this field, they don't see a problem with the status quo, and that including more women in the field is completely unnecessary and not worth considering, much less actually doing anything about.
So yeah. Not feeling like I could ask any of these people and a question about something I'm studying or make a comment about something technical without getting either a lot of "pat pat little girl" or otherwise insulting and unhelpful reactions.
Oh those ladies and their feeble, overheating lady-brains!
And people wonder why the ladies don't want to hang out with you kids all day. Could it be that ladies are smart enough to figure out when and where they are unwelcome? UNPOSSIBLE
signed, a lady who is interested in programming
I wasn't anywhere near the only one who had those kind of cross-platform needs. My program was a real mix of Windows and OSX users with a few linux users for flavor.
Additionally, based on the initial line ("At the risk of being accused of trolling"), it seemed obvious that the OP KNEW that what they were about to say was terrible and/or offensive. That comment was an attempt to confirm that yes, what they said was bad and they should feel bad.
I can understand why you think I was insinuating that the OP was racist, but that was not my intention. My intention was to point out that his 'academic' question was incredibly callus toward a population that is regularly and systematically disadvantaged on multiple fronts. .
So yes, you are trolling.
Maybe I'll try and revisit this on my own. I run into so many situations where I KNOW there has to be an easier and less-human-error-prone way to have a computer do data manipulation for me, but I don't know enough to actually put it together.
I've only just moved from XP to windows 7, so we'll see how that goes. So far not too many complaints, but you can definitely tell that they were pulling heavily from the OSX experience, much to my sadness.