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It’s not whether life is fair, it’s all about how you perceive things and it’s a choice to be happy. It may sound cheesy but I see people living in misery all the time, blaming everything and everyone else around them for their own lack of successes, when they don’t even realize their life is so much better than 90% of the world’s population. If you embrace more gratitude in your life and start living with the mentality that if you don’t succeed, the only reason is yourself and yourself only, I think you’ll find a lot more happiness and success. I recommend writing down at least 3 things or people that you’re grateful for before you go to bed every night.

I have done ASP.Net before and dabbled in rails, django etc. It's been 2 years since I actively worked on the backend though, I still go in once in a while to fix bugs and whatnot but nothing super extensive.

wondering about the same, I'd be really interested in Etsy as I have been a seller myself. I come from more of a front-end background with some knowledge of working on the backend as well, but don't have extensive experience with the BE technologies mentioned in the posting

If your code review makes the coder feel personally attacked or embarrassed, you're not doing something right. Code reviews are meant for 2 (or more) way communications and discussions in order to hold quality of the code up to a standard, not a opportunity for the reviewer to feel superior and attack others. Commenting things like "this line is poorly written" is not helpful to anyone, instead try "do you x would be a better solution? because <insert reason>".

I'm sorry but if you're a functioning adult working in a professional environment, you should expect to receive critiques and feedback on your work. If someone is so sensitive that they cannot accept constructive criticism on their work, I don't know how they're ever going to learn or improve.

Nerf guns in the office is the worst, I don't understand what's the obsession with nerf guns in "start-up"s. It's incredibly distracting and sometimes dangerous, everybody just abuses it and list it as a "perk" to attract frat boys to work for their company.

exactly my thoughts, does the world even gain much from reading these? I'd argue corporate lawyers, which he called bullshit jobs are way more useful

again, all the points you listed which make girls more "luxury", I could also argue that society make them the way it is. 1. parents have to spend more money/time to ensure her safety -- because boys in india often don't receive enough education on respecting girls and that they're not objects. Sure, women are more vulnerable to sexual assaults around the world, but it's not like every day I walk from home to school or home to work that I have to worry about getting raped in Canada. 2. the money she earns does not go to the family -- in western cultures, boys don't give money to their parents either. On the opposite spectrum, in modern days China, both boys and girls are expected to share some income with their parents, so the problem that boys = more money for the house does not exist 3. you don't get to live in the house -- again very similar to point 2, in western countries, you don't get to live in your boy's house either 4. with more educated husband you have to pay more dowry, this is a very specific indian thing which I cannot begin to understand as there are already less women than men. In the parents' minds, girls are worth less hence making them having to pay to get rid of their daughters. If girls worth more to them, the situation would perhaps change (again, see families with educated girls that have decent jobs in modern days China, often demanding the groom to pay for the house and car)

That’s a terrible justification, girls are only a luxury because society make them to be. Through western societies and modern China, it’s already proven that other than physical strength, women are capable of receiving and making good use of education, can generate decent amount of income to support themselves even without a husband, can rise to leadership in many different fields. But in India and rural China, the opportunities for girls to develope are ripped away from them because of traditional beliefs. Hence growing into “luxury” women who have no skills or desirability other than being vaginas to men.

In some aspects China is more sexist towards women: - girls are still less desirable simply because their children do not carry the last name - people still believe older women = less value whereas older men = more value - women who aren't married by 30 are considered "leftovers"

But in some areas less sexist than western society - you don't take your husband's last name when you marry - you're not expected to quit your job and become a housewife when you have children - girls are expected to be good at math, science and engineering just as much as boys

why is this comment down voted by people? When I was born doctors were forbidden for reveal the gender of the baby. If anything I actually think one child policy helped the gender imbalance, before then, people could have how many ever children they want and abort how many ever baby girls they desired.

I believe the groom demanded to be paying for car and house is actually majority of the cases in China these days, especially in cities. Women have decent income themselves, most parents only have a single child, so why should mine (girl) be worth less than yours (boy) while there are plenty of men to be chosen from with a short supply of women

you don't, but when unspecified with "as a woman.." I'm guessing people in the tech community are generally just assumed to be men since that's the majority

You come across as someone who is too calculating of dating and marriage, treating it like a engineering or mathematical problem. Sure, selecting the right partner to spend the rest of your life is very important and anyone should put some thought into it, but imo should not be treated as a game of calculation and trade, to me that really loses the sense of what makes us human. The part where you said have moved to east coast for a few years where the dating pool is not a problem, and yet you haven't settled on a long term partner makes me think the majority of the problem isn't with the dating pool itself (not that there's anything wrong with this lifestyle if that's what you like).

same, I used to be fairly active on facebook during my highschool and college years, ever since it started filling my feed with politics, ads and junk I've been much less engaged with facebook. I disabled my account for a period of time and now I'm only hanging on to it because 1) it's still the one app that most of the people in my circle have accounts on 2) for organizing events 3) advertisement purpose

I have experienced similar, not as extreme but the feeling of being overly mindful of "risks", creating lots of spikes rather than just doing what needs to be done. Estimation in scrums are meant for exactly -- estimation, a way for developers to do a sanity check on if there are major disagreements on how complex an issue is and therefore its value when comparing to current business priorities. If you're breaking it down so small just so you feel you have "completed" sprints, you're gaming the system and lying to yourselves. Just understand that it is OK to not complete sprints, as long as you have a goal you can measure against and get a good feeling to how well you did.

Why not try to be more transparent and open with your team? Exactly what you just wrote here and let them know and then maybe you can have a discussion and see what happens from there, maybe they could move to something else like Kanban, or maybe they can improve the current way they work. If still nobody is willing to change and your frustration continues, then consider if you should leave your job. Sometimes people in a team develop this group-think and it doesn't necessarily mean there's no hope, often it just takes someone to take the initiative and voice their frustrations.

sorry to sound like a jerk here, while I'm aware things like this happen in China all the time and I am no fan of this type of policies and unclear communications, why does the author call out China in particular when they clearly indicated he has previously broken a Chinese law, now you may not fully agree with the law and there were unfortunate mistakes and lack of communications by his AirBNB hosts, it is still a valid law.

Same thing happens at western countries to Chinese citizens every single day, and yet nobody bats and eye just because Chinese aren't as vocal and expressing their dissatisfaction. Before my family obtained Canadian citizenship (we are originally from China), every time we crossed the US border we'd get questioned like criminals for a good 40 minutes, mind I was a 13 year old child so what crime could I possibly commit while in the US? And it wasn't until recently that I found out my Irish colleagues who do not even hold permanent residency in Canada, their experience going over the US border has been smooth as silk, no question, no fingerprints, no nothing.

I'm sorry I have a hard time emphasizing with the author, and I just don't know what point he's trying to get to here. That China is a shithole that discriminates western journalists? I don't know.

actually, it doesn't make zero sense. I'm a woman as well, and I would much agree with the original comment, and other women have said the same to me that they wouldn't move with a man that is not their husband. I'm not sure proposing for the sake of getting her to move with OP is the right intention, but if he feels serious enough about the girl then I'd say do it.

Unfortunately unlike men, it tends to be more difficult for women to find serious relationships when they're older, women only have limited amount of time of being able to reproduce. So even if women are not actively thinking about this, it is instinctive to only take the sacrifice of major life changes when we are able to tell there's a commitment to a relationship.

this may work well for smaller cities that are highly dense, but for a lot of North American cities, where a large population live in the suburbs and commute into city center for work, public transit are often unreliable and there's not big enough of a population overall support long hour, frequent services. I don't think it's fair or realistic to ask them to bike multiple hours to get to work everyday. Not to say hate, but I do find this type of proposal or thinking somewhat elitist and completely ignorant to the fact that there are others who do not live in cities yet depend on them for a living. Many people already choose to live in the suburb in order to lower their living cost compared to living in city centers, is it fair that they will be charged high tolls compare to whoever that's able to afford city center living?

My problem is not so much about getting paid, lots of companies when they hire they carry out at ~4hour in person interview, within which you'll be spending at least 2-3 hours solving problems and you're not getting paid to do it.

However I will not feel comfortable working for this company knowing this is their hiring process, they pay no respect to a developer's skill to communicate and work with others, their knowledge in building software at large scale, ability in bringing improvement to other people's skills and the company's processes. Sorry to be blunt but it sounds to me they're trying to hire code monkeys/coding robots not software developers.

I really enjoyed this interview, finally, some voices of reasons and not blind yelling at men for being sexist pigs just from reading some biased media's twisted headlines.

All these times around this memo, how many people actually cared to ask for female engineer's thoughts on this? All I see is women who don't work in engineering positions or men trying to interpret this memo from their perspective. How many actually cared what are the thoughts and impact on the main subject being discussed in the original article?

same here, I am a software engineer who happen to be a woman. There are things I don't agree in Damore's article. But that's just his opinion and that's okay. However I have no words to describe how frustrated I am to see media twisting and portraying him into this pure sexist, using words like "Anti-diversity" in their headlines just to get views.

And what's even more frustrating is Google's response of firing him. It makes me scared of working in the tech industry, luckily, I am a "minority" in both gender and race. Yet I can't help but wonder, if someday I speak up about my different views than the vast majority of my company, am I going to get fired for it?

hmm I think this varies a lot based on personality and your upbringing. But here are my $0.02,

try convincing yourself that you're not your code, you're not your work. You as a person is much more than just what you're paid to do. Perhaps consider going to the gym after work for 30-60 minutes, exercising helps improve your mood. I also think hobbies that are completely unrelated to your job helps keep your personal life separate from your work life. Personal belief the tech industry overall has a not-so-good culture where people expect your job to be your passion, and they expect you to be live and breath code outside of work. Try leaving that mentality behind, as long as you perform well at your job, as long as you have the desire to improve, it doesn't have to be your passion. I typically do calligraphy and music compositions after work, which are btw very meditative hobbies.

Hope that helps.

I am a woman of color. Unfortunately I do think location does matter quite a bit as I've heard of all these horror stories from tech scene in the U.S. but so far I have encountered nothing but respectful working environments, and some really good ones where I feel highly valued and have a lot of room for growth.

I think some things good to look out for during the interview are: - when you ask about their culture, what's their response? Beer and ping pong are not culture, they're at best fun stuff that young, hip bros like to do. If beer and ping pong is all they give you as an answer there might be a redflag there, it's possible that they'd discriminate against people who are not like them (people who don't drink etc.) Good answers to hear are how they want their people to succeed, what's their plan on taking their product and company up a level, what do they value and how do they carry out those values on a day to day basis? Do they provide any opportunities for employees to learn? - look at your to-be direct manager, from talking to him do you feel a sense of huge ego? do they think they know everything and is better than you at everything? or do they show a sign of humility and genuinely want to learn about your background and what you can bring to the table? - everybody else that interview you, are they behaving appropriately throughout the interview? ask them what they like and dislike about their job, that usually tells a lot. Again, if answer is "I love the free beer and pizza" something's wrong. They should be telling you what kind of opportunities they're getting at this company. Ask about work-life balance, during one of my interviews someone actually told me "the work life balance here is pretty good, some people have young children, it's not really fair to ask them to stay late everyday", and that's how I got a feel that the employer does encourage life outside of work. - I'd also watch out for companies that hire women for the sake of filling the quota, they're hiring you based on your gender, not your skills. Can you really expect that they'd value your skills enough to be supportive in your career development when you actually work there? Someone that hired you based on gender, would they really want you to get promotions in the future?

I wish I could explain better, but I think if someone is ego inflated it's fairly easy to tell just from some simple conversations, and I tend to avoid those people (I think even if I were not a woman, I'd still avoid those people).

Seems like a really cool project with potential. Would like to see the ability to preview on filters and synths, that seems like a big downside compared to the desktop DAWs.

Also not sure if there's a place to report bugs and provide feedback in the future?

I very much second this. I remember I had so much trouble landing my first internship that I was near the point of dropping out my CS degree to switch major.

After a few internships and also landing full time positions, I realize interviewing is really a distinct skill that's apart from your ability to perform on the job. Especially with companies that make you do coding puzzles, you have to treat it as a standardized test and put some effort into studying for it.

With more interview iterations, you'll also become better at presenting yourself and showing confidence (which I believe will have a major impact on people's first impression on you).

Wow, this is such great suggestion with well defined steps. I am not a student but have been wanting to know more about infrastructures and AWS since I have mostly been doing application level work.

Thank you for this suggestion!

exactly, in so many situations, why do we have to make things black or white? this is exactly what creates "us" vs "them".

used this in two hackathons, it was relatively easy to learn and has a pretty big set of functionalities built in such as physics, collision etc. It helped us through two fairly successful game jams, would recommend.

The very first internship is always hard to land, honestly it's probably not your age or your skills, but rather your experience with interviews and being comfortable with the process.

When I went to find my first internship I only just got it almost right before the deadlines, I was devastated, but something eventually came along and internships afterwards went much smoother than that. I know a lot of friends with similar stories.

So don't take this personally, all I can suggest is keep applying to jobs, get people to practice interviews with you, keep working on questions, and if you have the time working on some personal projects. Normal school projects aren't good enough, when interviewers ask you about those projects they would've heard of the same project 50 times already, work on something that you're passionate about and that you can solve some interesting challenges with, think about what the projects mean to you and how do they help you learn. They should be something that's interesting to talk about during interviews.

Also I'm not sure if this is a good advice or not, but imo don't set the expectation too high for your first internship, it may be a no-name company that you've never heard or cared for and not Google Facebook or whatever you desired, but you will still be able to learn a lot, and getting your foot in the door is important.

I worked at a "no-name" firm in my first internship, but looking back it probably taught me the most out of all of my internships. And things only got better for me since there.

not enough information, but one of the possibilities is they're trying to judge how you approach problems. You solved the bug great, but without using the debugger did you explain how you came to the solution? If they can't tell, there's no way for them to tell whether you just got lucky or if you actually have the skills to solve different problems