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Same. I'm sure Discord is special to people today in the same way that AIM, IRC and phpBB forums were special to me growing up.

I'm not OP but I dated the daughter of very conservative parents for several years before finally marrying her. We each lived at home and in fact she moved into my home after marriage because I have an elderly (I was born late) widow as a parent and leaving them behind to rot from solitude was not an option.

I think I can summarize it as: it's never been ideal, but we always made it work, and I'm the kind of guy who likes to remember there are always much worse problems elsewhere in the world. if the worst problem I had to solve was not enough privacy with my gf/wife, then I was doing pretty good on a global scale.

Depends. My wife moved in with my elderly (I was born late), widowed parent and I right after our wedding because there was no way I could leave them to fend for themselves after everything they'd done for me. My in-laws even encouraged it. It definitely wasn't the most romantic proposition but it hasn't stopped me from putting a ring on it.

I don't have any opinion on Rust but reading about microservices, JSON and IPC in the context of a high-performance editor did make me raise an eyebrow.

I live in Montreal (in a less severely hit area) and there's definitely a psychological element to it.

My elderly father lives with us. He worked in hospitals and during his heyday he had to deal with all sorts of contagious patients. His youth wouldn't have spared him from some of those diseases, but I don't think he worried too much about it.

But now he's 80 and ever since this pandemic started, there's only been fear-inducing news every day.

On one hand, there's the very real fact that the elderly are dropping like flies in Quebec due to poor management of retirement homes (which my dad saw coming years ago because he'd worked in those as well and the situation had only continued to degrade since he'd left).

But on the other hand, you've got all of these auxiliary news reports that only feel like negative reinforcement and has you solely focused on the virus as if it were the only threat out there now. And I think that messes with people's mind.

The day my dad stops being scared of the virus won't be the day the virus is gone, because that'll be in years, if ever. It'll be the day the news stop telling him to be scared.

But either way, my wife and I are fortunate enough to be able to work from home and minimize our outings for a while. I wouldn't expect everyone else to be able to do the same.

You wouldn't get fined but I can't imagine Tinder dates being seen favorably during a pandemic, even in Sweden.

On another note I'm genuinely curious to see what the conclusion will be regarding Sweden's approach. I'm still seeing polar opposite opinions on it every week.

I'm tempted to agree with you, although in the case of Epic it was about stuff like a Chinese company owning a minority stake, or devs choosing Epic as a launch platform (for actual upfront money).

This time someone on a public American stage was shut down to cater to a foreign, Big Brother-like government. It's a little less forgettable.

I think it's often underestimated just how many people don't care and are just focused on doing their job and feeding their kids. They might passively agree or disagree with something but acting on it is a whole different matter. Walmart's still bustling.

Yeah, whenever I read stuff like that I feel like I've been living in a parallel world. I've always grown up around people who played video games and they've never cared about anything other than the games themselves. They might passively agree or disagree with a company's stance on something but they'll still keep that entirely separate from the games being produced.

I agree with you but your individual account deletion doesn't really prove him wrong that he and others value their convenience over other people's rights. I've actually yet to even meet another gamer in person who cares at all.

My Win10 PC has been pestering me about the latest feature update(s) for months now but they repeatedly fail because of some generic driver error, which I briefly tried troubleshooting in vain. So every now and then I get to watch my PC rollback yet another failed update.

I used to say that until I started doing sports competitions and had to travel there repeatedly. I was admittedly worried because of my ethnicity but it went fine (a Canadian passport and NEXUS membership might've helped...you also wouldn't find much on my phone other than sports memes, as much as I care about my privacy).

Similarly in the game development community, lots of people complain about customs but then go to GDC every year.

I guess my point is that as long as America continues being a pillar of the world, people (like myself!) will continue putting their principles aside and comply, and the system will have no reason to change.

I hope you'll last longer than I did. :)

Edit for clarifications.

I dunno, the South China Morning Post reported on China essentially phasing out Islam [1], and that's on top of their ethnic cleansing with the Uyghur.

1: https://m.scmp.com/news/china/policies-politics/article/2145...

Yeah I'm glad this is being cast into the light.

I understand that the real reason why they're going after the Uyghur is to squelsh any separatist initiatives and that their religion happens to be a convenient tool to use against them but as someone born to Muslim parents I don't even wanna step into China at all now. I'd come to peace with their heavy surveillance because it just seemed like Chinese citizens had a different set of priorities in life but this ethnic cleansing makes me way too uncomfortable.

I had sort of come to peace with China having such heavy surveillance. Not because I approved of it but really there's only so much you can judge when your tax dollars go towards harming children overseas.

I recently learned about the Uighur situation though and it made me wonder if the average Chinese citizen even knows about that either and would they even care if they did. It's really a tricky state of affairs.

I don't know about the democracy part but he also mentioned religion and their ethnic cleansing of Muslims seems pretty bad from what I've read.

Carlin did comedy his whole life though. And I don't personally hear Carlin references more than I do Murphy ones. Eddie quit pretty early as you know, so I can't help but suspect his time was over voluntarily. Not long ago, he had to give a speech for the Mark Twain award and his Bill Cosby bit still had people laughing.

Yup it's his personal Twitter. No one was contesting his right to post whatever he wants. But as soon as you're trying to address an audience it comes with certain responsibilities. You're free to ignore these of course but then don't be surprised if you get backlash or if new people don't listen.

I'm not really sure why you need to equate being civilized with wearing kid gloves? Is it hard for you to not call people stupid when addressing an audience? Or rather, if you do, does it help? You can call people stupid all you like in private but if you want to educate developers on how to do better I'm not sure why you're so intent on going down this route.

People also often try to make this a generational thing and blame silly emotional millenials but not attacking individuals isn't a brand new concept. And until people stop buying Windows and VS licenses en masse these people have no real reason to worry over their job and thus no real reason to listen to personal insults.

It doesn't matter if they deserve it or not. I have problems with Windows 10 every time I turn on my PC. I hate the state of modern software. But I don't go out on Twitter and call everyone an idiot. What's the aim here? You think employee #2822156 in the Visual Studio team is gonna think damn, Cassie is right, I'm an idiot and we need to turn this ship around? You think web devs are gonna sign a petition to cancel JavaScript in browsers?

All this does is create is this big network of animosity from like-minded people who like to complain together. At the end of day I'd find it much healthier to spend time with someone like Stephanie Hurlburt than Casey.

He could just stick to providing educational material like he does with HH. Lots of people gain insights from those. The Linus-like talk brings literally nothing to the table except bad feelings.

EDIT: I should also mention that for every person like you and I (because we're on the same wavelength regarding software quality, no arguments there) there's also a crapton of people who are very happy with modern software development. I just have to look around my desk at work and I'll find people cheering for the next VS or Electron or whatever toy release. Hell, even Tommy Refenes said he liked Windows 10. These people exist, are in great numbers and are not going anywhere. So you're better off simply laying down informative facts and tips for anyone willing to listen, rather than engage in name calling.

Casey always makes interesting points about modern computing and I tend to agree with a lot of what he says. Unfortunately he has a bad habit of insulting people on public platforms. Windows aggravates me as much as the next person but then he'll go off on Twitter asking if Microsoft is run by babies in diapers or whatever. Pretty sure he's also called web developers incompetent idiots more than once too.

It's one thing to say in that private out of frustration but in public all you'll do is just alienate the side you're trying to appeal to and they'll carry on doing what they do.

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Isn't the whole point of Signal that it's e2e encrypted and therefore can't really read and share your messages? Whereas Facebook's system is centralized? So yeah you're safe from outside attacks but not internal ones?

I mean if you're asking me if I know for certain that Signal is better than Facebook, there's no way for me to know for sure.

But at some point there is a level of trust required and I trust a company like OWS more than I trust a company like FB. Call it blind faith, I dunno, but I also have to trust my operating system otherwise I wouldn't get anything done.

Edit: although I should add that while it may be labeled as blind faith it's also fueled by experience. OWS aren't the ones that periodically reset my privacy settings or tried to wage war against accounts not using real names etc etc.

The article isn't about bad encryption though. It's not about a flaw in the signal protocol or something like that. It's stuff like Moxie doesn't like F-Droid. Which is not an invalid criticism but I'm not gonna stop recommending Signal over Facebook Messenger because of that.

Regarding false sense of security...eh. I can't speak for endangered activists but everyday people write stupid things whether it's on SMS or Signal. But might as well be on Signal.

I already mentioned in my comment above that when a chat app misbehaves I don't spend time doing that and that my friends are even less likely to. It might seem unfair to you but that's just how it is. If it doesn't work I move on. Best of luck to Wire though.

I'm happy for you. Buf that doesn't undo what happened to us.

I was on Wire for a time and even got other people on board. Then the experience suddenly degraded out of nowhere. The desktop and web clients would never finish syncing. Some other stuff I don't remember. I really liked the app though.

I mean the unfortunate reality of chat programs is that there are so many that when I'm having weird problems I'm not gonna spend time opening issues on GitHub and sending logs; I'll just go back to what works. That's even more true for my non-technical friends.

Signal did what those things failed to do which is to actually gain some popularity outside of HN. I hope Matrix takes off! In the meantime if people are convincing their families and friends to get on Signal then that's a net positive to me.

I don't know anything about Moxie derailing threads or anything like that but if we just listened to critics all the time then we just wouldn't have anything. Signal is better than a lot of what is out there and being used as scale and that counts for something. More secure is always better than not secure at all.

I'm not really sure what your point is. With or without Mastodon people have already created forums/social media groups/online communities for like-minded people and will censor or not censor it to their liking. That's the freedom of the internet.

And honestly I'd rather have that than the current state of social media where everyone is on the same platform and yelling at each other and using retweets to shame one another. My experience is anecdotal of course but whenever I see people trying to engage in discourse with the other side, everyone just doubles down on their opinion and the conversation goes nowhere.

My job right out of school was mostly C++. Nowadays it's a mix of C++ and web stuff.

I'm in QC as well and was lucky enough to land a 65k job right out of school, so it was awkward to see my classmates not only accepting 45-50k salaries but also trying to rationalize them. I think you might be right about the taboo.

But otherwise I love Montreal. My salary today is definitely peanuts compared to SV but I live comfortably here and I saved way more than 12k during school thanks to internships and the low tuition costs you mentioned. The city is very culturally rich and I just really enjoy it here.