I started with a relaxation method (shiatsu für personal use) more than 30 years ago. Today I realise that this was my Startingpoint with Meditation.
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1. All men are born whith the habit of mirroring. It's the way childs learn.
2. When people mirroring you, they mirror your inner fealings subconsciously.
3. When your personal fealings are in a bad shape people see it and do not want to share them by the automatic mirroring process.
4. So first at all find ways to get in an inner good mood, find peace and love in your inner selve and the people will want to mirror you.
PS: That is why smile allone is an bad advice. The inner mood they will mirror would disface every trained smile technique person.
Doing is the only way to transform.
But not knowing who you are could get you on the wrong path. Introversion for example could be a learned habit but mostly lies in your genes.
And the simple and best Book to Live with your special Guys in the Company is "Assertivenes at Work" from Kate Back: https://www.amazon.com/Assertiveness-Work-Professional-Busin...
At the End I take a buddhism trail and got rid of this Feelings blowing my emotions to this bad shapes you discribes. Begin with simple Meditation by Youtube lessons.
Live long and prosper Oerb
- "Menschen lesen" - Joe Navarro (not much news, but good)
- "Intros und Extros" - Sylvia Löhken (now I'm clear - I am an Intro" :)
- "Lassen Sie Ihr Hirn nicht unbeaufsichtigt" - Christine Strenger - (nice book about how to remember things, but I decided that it is not my way to remember. Need to fix my memory to real things)
- "Thinking, Fast and Slow" - Daniel Kahneman - ( something about thinking I descoverd 20 years ago by my selve)
- "Assertiveness at work" - Ken Back, Kate Back ( The way I walk now to Hack passive agressive behavior )
- "Emotional Vampires at Work" - Albert J. Bernstein - (Helped me to discover the passive agressive behavior I never noticed as what it is before.)
- Profile Books about: 1. Michel Foucault, 2. Jacques Derrida, 3. Villém Flusser
- "Theorie des kommunkativen Handelns Band1" - Jürgen Habermas (started Band 2 Book 2 month ago)
- "Super-Brain" Deepak Chopra, Rudolph E. Tanzi - ( uhhh... you need to find a better book, but easy to read)
- "Der Pychopath in mir -engl.:The Psychopath Inside" - James Fallon (nice Book - found some Psychopath around me and give them hinds now not to stumble)
german Book "Darm mit Charm" - Giuelia Enders - Never laught so often by reading a Science book about my bowel.
"The angry Smile" - Jody E. Long, Nicholas J. Long, Signe Whitson - in 2014 i discovered passive agressive behavior arround and against me. But all Books I found since, had the one solution "get around them - do not talk to them - get rid of them" but if you need to work with passive agressive behavior, that isn't what you need. So this book gives me the hinds to hack this behavior.