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For reasons that don't matter, I've had to live with a 25-yo since summer that has ADHD and anxiety diagnosed by a therapist. Two main issues I see in her behavior: - She changed therapist twice until she heard what she was looking for. She said she was looking for a compatible "therapist". - The fact that she was diagnosed was a relief to her because now she can just offload any responsibility. Forgot to do something? It's normal, that's my ADHD. Not in the mood to go and work tomorrow? that's my anxiety kicking-in.

There's just no hardship anymore and her life is not even that stressful. It's just easy to come with that and give excuses.

The issue is: I want to be sympathetic to her condition and help, but it's really hard to don't sound like I'm judging. I can't just challenge a behavior because she is already doing the best she can. It's like there's an invisible ceiling.

PS: I'm only 12 years older than her.

yes, the hands show the normal hour corresponding to the wrong number: at 9 o'clock, the hours pointer will be in it's correct place, pointing to a 3.

He would actually be working against his interest: he has been seen wearing multiple Swiss watches - Patek's, Rolex, Vacheron, etc,

agree with your comment, but to be honest, I'm not sure there's any Swatch I would wear: which model would you choose if you wanted to dress business casual?

Ok, I can give you a Skin Irony, but then you would be paying +200 for a Quartz, why not buy an Orient Bambino or a Hamilton Khaki? much better bang for the buck.

Not to mention the clicking noise of a Swatch quartz. In silence, it drives me nuts.

The most understated watch they make is the Swatch Pay!. Super useful, never fails.

taste is subjective. Are you sure you know what you're looking for?

no, it's a regular quartz movement.

On the efforts to guide people, I added small things like this to the rules of engagement. But there's just so many more things to frame in the context of team management that this becomes just a foot note.

What really harms productivity is lack of leadership, vision and organization. I try to avoid micromanaging this sort of thing.

Being a manager is not benefiting from other people's work, is to try my best to eliminate barriers so they can do their best work. That includes making them comfortable in the work environment. When you reach a point where you work with many people from different backgrounds, you really have to learn to adapt to people and accommodate to their ways of working.

If that means that I don't get triggered when they leave me a "hi" and never come back, that's fine by me.

This is not the first time I see this here and to be honest, I was in total agreement a few years ago. In principle, I still am.

Then I became a manager, I had to start dealing with more people, to navigate the enterprise environment and I understood that one of my strengths is to be understand people and to accommodate their ways of working. In this context, being hard with people that just say hello just doesn't make much sense to me anymore. People have busy schedules, they start conversations and are interrupted, they receive hundreds of notifications and have other meetings going on.

If the worst they do to me is to say hello and never talk to me again, I'm ok with accommodating this in my daily workflow.

As someone who worked closely to the Omega / Swisstiming operations at the Olympics, this is super cool stuff. Congratulations to all involved in being able to deliver when it mattered.

The team also makes really interesting stuff on other sports, such as Beach Volley. Worth checking how it's done.

Have you seen the Tissot connect? Latest version is pretty good

I will keep on working on my Cybersecurity newsletter [1] and expand it to more things Cyber with the inclusion of adjacent tools i.e. data breaches list, privacy guides, maybe job board.

A rebrand is also likely on the way, as the concept has proven to work.

[1] cyb3rsecurity.tips

I honestly feel for you and understand how frustrated you must be feeling. I also think you put too much pressure on yourself and that you went after a lifestyle instead of working on a product that solves a problem and with that achieve your goals.

Two things that come to my mind: - The majority of the startups operate in new/unproven markets. Three startups is far from being a lot in this scenario. Ask how many failed startups the best entrepreneurs have worked on and on some cases you'll see 30+. - If you don't have access to venture capital, it's wise to work on your startup as a side gig and see how it goes from there. You would have much likely had more runaway ($$$) and be confronted with other business opportunities that would result in other (sometimes better) ideas.

The last point I want to add is related with the type of startups I see being founded. I view the Product Hunt feed on my Telegram and if I do a scroll over the next month or so, +80% are startups about tools for other entrepreneurs or slight variations of already existing companies (with the majority being note taking apps). I'm really not feeling a lot of innovation there.

PS - I run a side-gig Cybersecurity newsletter (cyb3rsecurity.tips) with decent results and the traction is definitely there while having 0 followers on Twitter.

I can ensure you that's not the case. I was born a couple dozen kilometres from there and as a kid, there was little to no people surfing in the region.

The surfing culture in Nazaré was inexistant before 2011, it was just a beach place known for good fish and nice people.

Saying that the bank was at a "Critical moment" last week was what triggered people into searching deeper.

I don't know enough about the economical impacts of what a CDS is, but he fell into the trap of the Swiss-German way of communicating - direct, concise and transparent. With time, I learned to appreciate this way of working, but this is certainly not ideal when talking about the condition of a systemic bank a few months after coming into the office.

I might be the only Swatch employee on HN, so I believe this deserves my comment. The concept of Internet Time is genius. Swatch even wanted to send a satellite to space and with that be able to synchronize the time on all the watches.

As others have said, I also think the issue was basing the time on Biel (GMT+1). If it had been done on another timezone, it would have worked better.

Mr. Hayek (the Swatch founder) was a genius ahead of his time.

Professor Patrick Wilson from the MIT [1] once wrote that:

"Your success in life will be determined largely by your ability to speak, your ability to write, and the quality of your ideas, in that order."

I think that's true. When I did my masters a few years ago, I enjoyed more the process of writing and editing than the research itself. I resonated with the thinking process behind the chain of ideas necessary to build a research document and this was surprising for me.

Writing has been something I left aside for some time until I decided to start my Cybersecurity newsletter [2], which has been a pleasure to write. Having the time to do it is the challenge.

[1] https://www.inc.com/justin-bariso/emotional-intelligence-mit... [2] https://cyb3rsecurity.tips/

Author here. Thanks for the comment.

The comment on the Ad Blocker is fair. I don't recommend any, but if you chose one from the top list of Extensions in Firefox or Chrome, you should be fine (I don't use one, btw).

Agree with your Chromium remark. It's there for people to know it's possible if they don't like Firefox.

I have a good experience with my QNAP without much effort. The Apps are ok and work well. The security is indeed a problem and you have to keep it constantly updated.

Author here. Thanks for the comment. I get your point, but if you have to teach someone how to turn on a computer, privacy is not exactly a topic that is important for that same person. It might be important to you, that will implement some of the measures under the hood.

Regarding the own cloud instance: you can easily buy a NAS and have your own instance of Nextcloud / QNAP cloud or Synology with a few clicks. These instances come with Native smartphone Apps that allow you to effectively host the data in your home.

Believe it or not, it's not for the sake of engagement. I also use the internet and find articles with 2 parts to be disappointing but I felt like there was enough value in part 1 alone.

800+ words on an email client on a phone is just too much and there are better options to read long-form. I could make it smaller, but I would risk leaving out an important part I wanted to debate.

OP here. Fair criticism thanks. As I stated in another comment, I was going to make this a list of things you could do, but the argument to why you should do it was not clear, at least for me. This is the purpose of the article: explain my mother why. The how will come later.

Thanks, makes sense. I will explore how the Intel Management Engine can make an effect on privacy.

I find your argument to be true, but the idea is to discuss what we can do versus the standards which I find them to be GDPR and Apple. The first because it came out with a set of rules that didn't exist anywhere else in the world and the second because it prevented millions of people to be tracked when they navigate (obviously a commercial stunt, but still). I would question if anyone else made more for privacy in the last few years than these two (Maybe Firefox?)

Maybe the whole world must push for GDPR-like regulation or for Android to block third-party cookies. Until then, the responsibility is on each individual.

OP Here. Thanks for the feedback. When I started to write the article, I was set to give a list of things we can follow to improve privacy. In the middle, I noticed the arguments why you should do it were not clear. As I said in another comment, it's not clear for my mother the consequences of oversharing, so it's not easy for me to tell her not do do so.

The reality is that it really depends. Maybe you do need to flash your phone and use a VPN or maybe not. It's complex. I work in Cybersecurity and I often get into projects where PMs want magic bullets but there isn't one. Are you processing personal data? Are you going to have legal, financial or reputation implications if you have your data stolen? It's not binary.

The idea is to get the basics right so I can defend to my significant other why she doesn't see ads on Google: it's because pi-hole, honey.

I will come up with the list of things you can do and share it here soon, sorry if you think it's clickbait.

OP here. It's a fair criticism, thanks. I have a limit of around 800 words per article. This is a newsletter, otherwise would be too long. It's the format I believe works best.

The idea is also to discuss the what and the how of online privacy. The list of actions can get pretty long, so I decided to divide the article while I was writing it.

OP Here. Don't forget the great majority of data breaches are due to very basic issues i.e. unsecure passwords, shared credentials, unsecure API endpoints, etc. When hackers try to find their target, unless very specific cases, they start with the easiest path. This is where you have a word to say. They may come for you, but with the right settings, it might not be worth the hassle.

OP Here. I'm arguing the *why* you should care and *what* can happen. The article is a reflection on how I can explain my mother that she should care. Going invisible online doesn't mean you have to limit your presence - it really depends. That's why I think there are some fair criticism about the last paragraph of the article, that really doesn't tell you what to do.

OP Here. I'm interested in the balance you found. Happy to include it in the part 2 and reference you.

OP Here. The legal part is important, but you don't have to make it easy. GDPR was a good step forward if not in the way people think about the subject. It would be great to see other countries follow this.

OP here. It is true, and a missing part of the article. Took note of it, thanks.