This is the fundamental question which motivated the post. :)
I think there are a few different ways to approach the answer, and it kind of depends on what you mean by "draw the line between an allocation happening or not happening." At the surface level, Zig makes this relatively easy, since you can grep for all instances of `std.mem.Allocator` and see where those allocations are occurring throughout the codebase. This only gets you so far though, because some of those Allocator instances could be backed by something like a FixedBufferAllocator, which uses already allocated memory either from the stack or the heap. So the usage of the Allocator instance at the interface level doesn't actually tell you "this is for sure allocating memory from the OS." You have to consider it in the larger context of the system.
And yes, we do still need to track vacant/occupied memory, we just do it at the application level. At that level, the OS sees it all as "occupied". For example, in kv, the connection buffer space is marked as vacant/occupied using a memory pool at runtime. But, that pool was allocated from the OS during initialization. As we use the pool we just have to do some very basic bookkeeping using a free-list. That determines if a new connection can actually be accepted or not.
Hopefully that helps. Ultimately, we do allocate, it just happens right away during initialization and that allocated space is reused throughout program execution. But, it doesn't have to be nearly as complicated as "reinventing garbage collection" as I've seen some other comments mention.