I've traveled a fair amount of South America and kept giving people advice based on prices from 2018-2022. Wanted to actually verify whether that advice was still accurate. Medellin and Buenos Aires are the two that surprised me most.
If it's discouragement you want to avoid, it's likely that it's discouragement you need. You may need to accept that whatever ideal you're seeking doesn't exist. This discouragement may hurt at first, but it will open you up to a new world of possibility.
The problem is almost assuredly not with these men, but with your perfectionism. Or trauma. Or distorted beliefs about relationships. You need to dig into your beliefs about relationships and uncover where your distortions lie.
Musk believed he needed to compel people back into the office to get what he wanted. These employees believed it was worth it to speak out. Both parties were capable of understanding the consequences of their speech. And none of those consequences were unethical or or even disproportionate to their cause. I'm not sure there's even anything to talk about here. There's no right or wrong to people's preferences for their workers' jobsite presence. And there's no right or wrong to public disagreement. In fact, this is a public market disagreement that will happen for years to come.
I wish I could use Camo. But my company doesn't allow third party software without admin approval. Makes the process of installing Camo substantially more obnoxious.
People can do harmful actions unknowingly. There's not much use labeling any inproper action as "asshole." Most of the time people are just making honest mistakes where they didn't adequately consider all the outcomes. You've either got to stomach honest mistakes, or implement rules that prevent them from ever happening. People aren't magically born with the ability to "not do anything an asshole might do"
NIMBYism drives things like this. Sure, we abstractly want fewer regulations for the restaurant 12 blocks away. As long as you can keep strict regulations on the empty retail space below your apartment, the tight parking situation on your block, or the crime rate in your neighborhood.
The findings in this book are a bit misleading because they don't account for base rates. Of course most millionaires live in suburbs and drive pickups. Most humans live in suburbs and pickups are the most common work vehicle in the US. Nassim Taleb did a good critique on this I believe.
I don't like how this article turns communication into a means for career climbing. Sometimes we have something we need to express to someone simply because it's true. And speaking truthfully is beneficial in ways beyond the scope of a career.
I see this sentiment often on HN, but I think it's too reductive. For better or worse, we don't just work for a "company". We work with a group of other real whole humans. And if I'm going to spend 8hrs a day with these folks, I expect our relationships to be on a deeper level than "NPC." I don't think we should be "family." But NPC is way too impersonal for me.
I hope this tech comes to Philadelphia soon as well. The ATV's and other off-road vehicles making heinously loud noise at all hours is frustrating and unnecessary. It benefits no one but the egos of the riders. It'd be great for them to be off the road entirely, they consistently disobey traffic laws. But I'd be happy just to turn the noise down a bit.
You might like the book "4000 Weeks: Time Management for Mortals." It's about this precise idea of valuing idleness (there's no quick way to change that mindset, it's a process).
The reasons why a national legislature enact a law that brings forth a program like this are complex and multifaceted. It's completely possible that slow-tourism generated by these tickets will greatly benefit small towns who otherwise might not garner the interest of foreign capital.
I highly recommend "Feeling Great" by Dr. David Burns. He's very data-driven and passionate about helping people improve their thought processes and therefore feelings. I've been seeing a therapist associated with his work and it's been very helpful at uncovering many deep-seated issues of perfectionism that have led me to distressing anxiety lately. I sympathize with OP even though I've tripled my salary since the start of the pandemic by climbing the corporate ladder. But I'm constantly feeling like I'm not doing enough or feeling amazing enough. This therapy has taught me to see the value in my perfectionism, but also why I may want to tone it down a little bit.
2016 to 2018 I was at a company where most of the office was in person, but I was allowed hybrid unofficially. I'd end up coming in on most days, but usually around 11 or 12. And I'd occasionally leave early. When I was in the office I cherished seeing my coworkers, socializing, and solving problems together. I think that was my ideal work arrangement. Now I'm fully remote but it feels like I'm just paying the rent on my own office space. I'm chained to my desk for video calls and frequent Teams pings. My office is 2hrs away and I can't just go in. There's almost no camaraderie on the team. People do their jobs and log off. Not even basic water cooler discussion type stuff.
It's likely the music platforms' data is showing them that users vastly prefer explore+exploit lists vs just explore. If you're in the small minority who wants to listen just to new music, there are plenty of curated playlists you could select.
Asking for an all-new list is akin to asking for a HIIT workout plan, but without the pauses.
I find it infuriating that the article states that low budget films are the most disagreed-upon genre between critics and audiences. But then doesn't show any of the data on the budget aspects.