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So I grant this is definitely happening, but it begs the question of why in this environment 100% of people don’t suffer from ADHD? One reasonable answer, which I cannot prove beyond saying it matches my anecdotal experience, is that the ADHD problem is part nurture (information overload from a changing media environment that affects everyone) but also part nature (every brain is naturally a little bit different).
I have always had inattention—just ask my parents and childhood teachers. It had nothing to do with the Internet. No question the internet has posed extra challenges to my naturally weaker attention, in a similar way to how the invention of skyscrapers posed a challenge to people in wheelchairs. This analogy fails with the invention of elevators, for which the ADHD sufferer has no equivalent accommodation in our modern media world.
I wish I could invite non-ADHD-havers into my brain for a day to show them what it’s really like. Even now, as an adult with robust coping strategies, inattention afflicts me in all corners of my life. I struggle with the unexpected if it hits me when I’m focused on something, which leads to problems making friends or navigating stimulating social environments. I have trouble listening to friends or dates in busy bars or cafes, which is a related but distinct problem. When I’m trying to get into a flow at work I frequently get random, highly salient impulses to do other things that are important but aren’t the thing I need to do at that moment. Crucially I resist these urges, but they make achieving the flow I crave—and the success of my work—more difficult.
Even in current year, I think a lot of people (and certainly a lot of doctors!) don’t believe that any of this is real, and all I want from life is to take speed and scroll Reddit and Twitter all night. Let me assure you that this is not the case. If anything, the people I know IRL who have ADHD are among the most driven people out there. They almost have to be, because the minute they drop their guard their dreams start slipping away.
It’s easy to be a solo dropout and turn your back on the world. The problem comes when no one goes with you, and now you’re just an old man yelling at a cloud. I yearn desperately for a life where my connections to everyone I know aren’t mediated by the internet. But as long as everyone else is still on the internet, I’m pretty much SOL.
I find this particular version a bit tedious because you aren't allowed to Find on a page. What good is having a timer if I can't go fast? Why punish me twice for reaching a dead end page by making me read the entire thing to discover that I need to go back?
Note I'm a person who's relatively less motivated by money, and my idea of successful self-employment is to be a consultant with a very good work-life balance. If you're trying to start a billion-dollar company this advice isn't for you, but I wish you the best of luck.
Disclaimer: I am not a doctor, but I do have clinical depression, and I would never advise anyone that you can simply think/meditate/hack your way out of it. HOWEVER, I have been having what feels like success with the following, very simple CBT-style thought exercise:
When you find yourself having a negative thought, "respond" (inwardly) with a constructive and proportional "but" statement. Example: "[After eating a bunch of junk food late last night] I'm so unhappy about how weak and out of control I was last night... BUT I now have more information that I can use to make better decisions in the future."
The point here is NOT that you are logically convincing yourself that the bad thing is actually good. The effect is much stranger than that. Simply doing the exercise itself will improve your mood. A cynic might say "well you're just saying the glass is half full instead of half empty, but I still know that it's empty." My counter to this is, no, you've missed the point entirely. The life of every non-depressed person you know is filled with half-empty glasses. But part of the reason they are not depressed is that they are not in the habit of letting that fact get them down.
Crucially I am not advising that you ignore your problems or allow them to fester unresolved. Rather, I recommend "demoting" your bad feelings. Instead of giving them a dominant position in your awareness and decisionmaking, pull them back to a more proportional place. It feels counterintuitive, but you may find that you're actually more able to face these problems, even the serious ones, when you strive to worry less about how bad they are.
Still, overall an insightful and much-needed statement on one problem with the times we live in. I especially loved this line:
> These students inevitably end up as consultants or bankers or managers at tech companies, industries that richly reward people who are willing to work very hard for no particular reason.
Books, as I said, are a business. When you write a manuscript, chances are that it will be rejected by at least a few publishers before someone decides it fits their business goals. That's not discrimination, it's how the world works. I haven't seen any data showing that the percentage of new releases by white men is somehow less than the percentage of white men in the country. What I have seen is a lot of anecdotal complaining by people who are no longer benefiting from the obsolete modes of discrimination that they formerly rode to success.
I'm glad you got to experience this idyllic small-town community. That wasn't an option for me. My town was the poorest in my state, so I went to the best possible college elsewhere, and have since lived in other places for work. Incredibly, moving out of my shitty hometown has not prevented me from experiencing community. In fact I'd say I experienced more community in my few years living and working abroad than I ever have in America, where I now live. Frankly I'm finding it very hard to find community in a country full of people who have never left their hometowns and have no concept of people or ways of life that differ from their own. At least I still have group chats with the real friends I made from going to new places and doing new things.
I've known digital nomads though. One of them bought a house with the woman he met in that country and remains to this day. Maybe you should reflect on why you think so little of local people in the countries digital nomads visit that you can't imagine them connecting with or being genuinely interested in travelers.
This is nonsense, community is simply about about shared experience and can absolutely happen with strangers or short term acquaintances. In fact I'd say that's the primary way I've experienced community from college onwards (now 30 y/o) and I expect many young people would feel the same.
More to the point, digital nomads often stay in a place for months on end. That's more than enough time to run into people in similar circumstances at a bar/cafe a few times and befriend them, creating shared in-jokes and opinions of your situation, passing them on to other people you meet such that they take on a life of their own—aka, culture. You need look no farther than major digital nomad hubs like Chiang Mai and Bali to see that there are extremely vibrant communities in these places, which is why so many nomads find their ways there.
There's no question that today space is being made in publishing for "other voices." But this article in no way says that is a bad thing, or agrees with the book author's implication of the same. To the contrary, it explains in a useful way (imo as a white man who might want at some point to publish a book) what white men can do to stay competitive as modern reading audiences change. Books are a business. If you can't get with the times, whose fault is that, really?
Visiting my parents today and tomorrow then home Sunday to get ready for the work week.
At the end of WWII, America was the last rich country standing and proceeded to go round the world kicking out left-wing governments (unfriendly or not) and installing right-wing ones. The result was unprecedented profits and security for American corporations, and some of that wealth undoubtedly trickled down. But I'm left thinking about the cost. Is it any wonder Russia, Iran, South America, etc. would distrust us and want us out of their business?
The comparison at the end to the Mongols feels apt, since while their empire was undeniably great, it is very difficult to argue that they were a force for good in the lives of the people on whose backs that greatness was won.
"It looked like only a few of the bears knew how to use fire and were carrying the others along. But isn’t that how it is with everything?"
Then again, I do think this is a case of the "if you'd only seen it at the time!" I saw 2001 A Space Odyssey recently for the first time, and while I really appreciated the practical effects, compared to fast paced, exciting movies made in the past 20-30 years it was boring and utterly baffling. Time passes, things change, the fact is not everything is for everyone, and assertions of "Thing X is the greatest of all time" are and always will be nonsense.