But you can buy newspapers in lots of places and read them. And magazines!
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How many individual podcast hosts actually control those advertising slots?
I've tried to interpret his point with a less literal lens. The real point being: give yourself as many opportunities to try, experiment, move on, move forward, etc. Spending excess time reflecting internally and/or on past may not be so productive.
But spending zero time (as he seems to suggest) feels illogical.
My personal experience is somewhere in between. Serial over-thinker and ruminator, and the more I break away from that behavior, the better I feel. And I'm probably more productive.
Anyone else share that in-between experience?
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But I've been able to cut for months at a time. Whenever the cut happens, I feel my brain sort of "return" roughly a week or two in.
I'm not sure how to explain it other than something like fog clearing. Obviously makes some intuitive sense when you read it.
However, as someone that has consumed alcohol somewhat regularly (sometimes more, sometimes less) since college, it's bizarre to think about that consumption in retrospect. In effect, years and years of "fog" - it makes me wonder how different or similar life would have been without that fog.
Can't change the past now, but a data point and strong signal for the future.
But I was reminded immediately of this Dan Luu post with the same title.
Feels that way in auto too.
I go to Tesla, Lucid websites. Breath of fresh air. Clear choices.
Porsche website: WTF. (just one example, there are many)
But if you only ever say no, or the reverse, and never explain or attempt to explain, you're missing some opportunities to chat with your kids. They of course need to sort some things on their own too.
As for the shitstorm, yes, they get used to your rule and calm down. But that was my point: lots of folks overreact and create the vicious cycle. Your kid complains, you give the phone, they shut up. Repeat. Repeat again. Now your kid expects the phone. And now you believe they will only ever stay calm if you give them the phone.
Breaking the cycle requires you to stick to your statements, but also, in public, to not give a shit about embarrassment. When you worry if you're disturbing everyone else or you feel inadequate as a part that can't calm a kid, you might give in. You can't!
PS: multiplayer games in my statement -> multi-player with me. Not internet.
Reminds me of a family member who complained about his oldest playing Minecraft. He said “I don’t understand it” - guy is 49, grew up in Montana, shot guns as a teen. Very different upbringing.
But I never saw him attempt to understand. My daughter is not stuck on games at the moment but when she does play I do my best to talk through with her.
Multiplayer Switch games on TV help!
Hard to impose a device limit on a kid if that kid watches you use your device constantly. I’m not some hero here - constantly reminding myself to be aware.
Now, I think imposing limits in the open world is a specific challenge. To your point, you’ll see kids at restaurants on iPads. Well, now your kid wants iPad. You don’t give it? They start a shitstorm.
I don’t think an outright device ban is so critical. But limits are important, and even more important is sticking to what you said you would do as a parent. With mine, they sense that moment of giving and almost instinctually rush to exploit. That said, flexibility is important too - knowing when you use it.
As for game, I set a rule on an iPad. No games with ads. Those seem to be the worst of them, and there are tons.
I hear “x tool doesn’t really work well” and then I immediately ask: “does someone know how to use it well?” The answer “yes” is infrequent. Even a yes is often a maybe.
The problem is pervasive in my world (insurance). Number-producing features need to work in a UX and product sense but also produce the right numbers, and within range of expectations. Just checking the UX does what it’s supposed to do is one job, and checking the numbers an entirely separate task.
I don’t many folks that do both well.
Govt creates something: you see that tight control from the beginning. Makes logical sense.
Private company creates something gov't sees as a threat: private companies are allowed to express opinions and make decisions irrespective of threat or not, right?
One example I'm thinking of: Apple's stand on cracking devices. Gov't wants to crack into a phone and Apple won't do it for them without right measures in place. I think Apple SHOULD be able to make that call. Whether it's right or wrong is still murky.