futuredivorcee

Okay, I was trying to have a discussion on the logistics of raising our children the way we agree is best without defending that way — but I understand; we're humans, and humans want to dig deeper. So here goes:

My eldest daughter has a lot of autistic tendencies and is an unusual learner, but brilliant. I don't want to have her put in a situation where all the things that make her different and wonderful have to be put in a box that was made for someone else. My middle girl is a dancer. She's really good, and she loves it! Homeschooling has let us get her lots of extra opportunities without it taking up all the time we have; we can do more dance without compromising her education or her time to play and be a kid. My little boy isn't old enough for school yet, but I can already see he's going to be a riot to watch. With his work ethic and his determination, he'll thrive no matter what. Selfishly, I want to get to see more of his development than I would at school, but he'll be fine.

In addition to that, they're accustomed to it, and from what they know of school, they would prefer to continue at home. Since I know divorce is unsettling, I don't want to inflict any more changes than are already necessary.

I was trying to keep focused on the question rather than my personal feelings; of course it's about the kids. But I didn't think everyone on HN needed to hear about my feelings.

We've found it effective, and it's good to have a chance to spend more time raising the kids. At this point, it's also because since things are being upset already, I hate to do more to unsettle their lives than we already are.

I'm inclined to feel like this is not particularly fair, but I'll be sure to think carefully about my motivations.

I'll check it out and get in touch if it looks like a good fit. Thanks!

Excellent idea on the meetups and such — I have a good excuse to do that right now, and I will act on it. I'll check into that site, as well.

P.S. I'm using a throwaway account here for obvious reasons.