> "It's hard to challenge yourself and others to go beneath the surface, but the rewards are great."
The author of the post seems entirely reasonable and I'd love to have a discussion with him about this type of stuff.
The problem, at least for me, is that it's difficult to tell upfront who's reasonable and who is not. What I mean by reasonable is someone who will put forward an honest effort to have a discussion, as opposed to deliberately trying to insult the other party (like the CEO from the article), or deliberately trying look for unintended missteps and immediately paint the opponent as some kind of racist monster (like some POC).
I used to be quite honest about these things; now with more experience I think I am less so.
This seems really sad, and like a step backwards, but I don't really see how to solve it without somehow being able to guarantee the other party will cooperate. Of course, if it is your wife, I'm sure you trust her a lot and she trusts you as well, which facilitates the discussion. However, realistically the vast majority of these discussions will be between people who not only don't trust each other as much, but they might even see each other as foes/adversaries.
In that scenario, I'm not sure it's a good idea to "challenge yourself [...] to go beneath the surface".