exolymph

Starting a family means giving up a lot of personal autonomy for the sake of a collective. A small one, compared to a company or a government, but a collective nonetheless.

Key quote:

> My peers in tech who are reluctant to have children often express fear that it will interrupt the arc of the careers they've worked so hard to build.

> That, I think, is the primary tension: not between the family and the state, as Boyle argues, but between individual and collective ambitions. Both the state and the family ask us to make sacrifices for something bigger than ourselves — and this, perhaps, is why they have historically fought each other for mindshare. What tech offers is the opposite: a chance to realize a vision that is entirely one's own. Tech worships individual talent, and it's a unique thrill to live and work among peers who don't shy away from greatness. But it also means that tech has to work harder than other industries to demonstrate that starting a family doesn't require giving up these ambitions.

I'm the breadwinner in my family, and my husband is a SAHD. I have a 2yo and I'm 6 months pregnant with our second. Stereotypically, having a kid made me care less about professional ambitions — but I don't care zero. And as the breadwinner, earning money, ideally more money every couple years or so, is a high priority. God, the pressure to keep up. It's hard to balance with being a present mom.

I live in the SF Bay Area and being able to attend events and network in person has been a huge boon to my career. Being "in the scene" pays off. I can't really do that anymore, not without losing time with my kid, and I'm just not willing to make the sacrifice. Traveling to conferences, etc., is even more off the table. Don't even talk to me about commuting. But I know these lifestyle changes will have repercussions next time I need to find a job.

To secure jobs with the kind of flexibility I require as a mom, I need to be a high performer, an impressive candidate with plenty of connections. Being a mom makes it harder — more expensive, let's say — to be that kind of exceptional worker bee. Oy vey!

> most high school graduates in the US come out with a good basic understanding of supply/demand and labor/capital basic inputs to businesses

I profoundly doubt this

Interesting parallel to AI, in terms of appropriation-via-ingestion.

That's just how it is. Most people are socially passive. Better to just accept that you'll need to take responsibility for sustaining the connections you care about.

People love to hate on hypebeast trends. When something becomes suddenly popular, there's a scramble to declare yourself too cool to be into it :P The whole cycle is amusing because defining yourself in opposition to the zeitgeist... actually is just another form of letting the zeitgeist define you. (Which I don't think is a bad thing, necessarily, but people who e.g. complain about Taylor Swift do think it is.)

Absurd comparison. Nobody vapes once daily.

(I think vaping should be legal, fwiw.)

I appreciate this. Risk is real! It's still worth taking risks, but the chance of failure is not imaginary.

> He's a robber baron, not a captain of industry.

Arguably these are synonyms :P

This attitude is why your society arrests people for mean tweets.

Put the login gate after you generate a ring, not before. I bounced immediately because it's not worth creating an account without really knowing whether I would be interested. Let potential users invest a little time and start dreaming, so you can take advantage of loss aversion to get signups. Probably also worth adding an option more lowkey than creating an account (which I assume includes setting up a password etc.), like a newsletter that aggregates the best designs every week.

Also, it wasn't obvious to me that the examples in the "Need inspiration?" section were generated, or that I could tweak those designs.

Good thing you specified, because I was assuming that you were gay.

Best of luck to you, sir. Thank you for sharing your perspective.

All of the above. I throw everything in that one file to keep it simple and prevent myself from spending unnecessary time organizing information that I don't end up needing again in the future.

I suppose the exception is when I already have a project-specific doc set up, then links or thoughts related to that project will go in there. But even then, sometimes I use the default scratchpad first, and move the info later, the next time I'm doing dedicated work on that project.

I have one massive text file (well, actually an Apple Note) where I paste anything I need to reference throughout the day. Reverse chronological, newest stuff on top. If I need something later, it'll be in there. If the information is sufficiently important, it'll eventually move into another more focused document.

Programmers are people with ideas. Without the ideas, you can't write the code.

Accompanying X thread that teases and summarizes the post: https://x.com/ejames_c/status/1921970373270372673

The point was that he's not Christian, which is a much more marketable religious affiliation in America.

You need to escalate this to the support tier where people are allowed to use their brains. Possibly writing to their legal department would do the trick?

While the US healthcare system does suck in numerous ways, is this kind of thing even available elsewhere, via socialized medicine? (Maybe the answer is yes, which would be great!)

(You don't need to censor yourself like that on HN. You can say "balls." Heck, you can say "testicles"!)

"actors in the market who are buying and selling stocks" does not necessarily mean retail, no?

no reason why both can't be true — the security is overall better, and companies are happy to invest in advancing this paradigm because it gives them more control

"homeless" is a larger category of which visible street people are but one subset. others are living in their cars or couch-surfing or what-have-you

Colloquially, sure. CPS only intervenes in really extreme cases.

There are millions of kids out there eating nothing but toaster waffles who don't have Crohn's. Your son's disease is not your fault — it's bad luck. It's certainly possible that eating a specific way could help manage his symptoms, but that's different from his diet (past or current) being the root cause.

Incidentally, this is Catholic theology. God is "outside of time" and perceives all of eternity at once.

It's political, a lot of users don't like divisive topics being featured on HN.

"The amount of cash looking to invest in winning web3 deals is pretty damn large; this means that when an attractive bet comes along, there is pressure to get as much capital into the deal as possible. [...] So, when a web3 product seems to have legs, well, it’s going to raise a check the size of a small city because there's a lot of capital wagered on there being lucrative wagers to be made on the blockchain. Even if the startup in question doesn’t really need that much funding."

men have trouble finding women* who want to fuck them

women have trouble finding men* who want to wife them

*deemed sufficiently attractive