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Sometimes people just like to watch the world burn...
and besides even if they get something low value as far as money that doesn't mean it's not important to me or terribly stressful
I'm sure many cab drivers are very anti-rape but nobody seemed to have done anything to make the situation safer
Seem to me that taxi driving is more of a (formerly) safe and proven blue collar job rather than an enormous and risky enterprise with investor money. Whereas with cab driving many times in the past it was a simple loan
There's the expectation of failure in a startup but not in a simple blue collar job
There is much more on the line personally than a startup.
It turns out I had real issues with CPTSD and other things going on that interfered with my ability to perform at work. What's worse, I didn't even know I was this bad.
Your reasons may be different. I actually really like doing my job even though I know I'm not the best.
for my case I had to stand back and realize what was actually really important to me and what would it take for me to just really throw myself into a job, to really just get good at something. It's kind of hard to say with your situation cuz it could be different you know?
For me, it was figuring out what exactly high-performing meant, what it took to achieve excellence and what the path looks like. There were also drugs involved.
I'm reading some anxiety in your message, like looking weird etc. does it really look weird or is it something that you're just sort of afraid of?
All I have is shitty advice, but I went through what you went through. :-( I don't know what you're specific situation is but your story reads a lot like mine
the long term effects wast that this not a healthy thing to tell a young teenager, and it's time for society to move on.
I mean what practices, habits, who knows what else
how do I get to be like this employee? With that kind of drive vision and focus? It's something I've been trying to cultivate in myself for a while but I'm always looking to be better.
It seem like I never know what to do next
When I'm on https://www.productdone.com/contact/ and I click 'about' in the nav bar it doesn't seem to take me anywhere.
For me, as an older programmer, it's not about 'self-worth'. It's about sunk cost, it's about our ability to provide for our families, it's about what we are doing with our lives when we have much fewer days ahead of us than behind us.
What do I tell my kids or wife? I can't get hired because I didn't memorize enough JS functions, or the right one, or didn't grab onto the right tech stack?
This isn't about a theoretical emotional idea: it's about survival today, into old age that is coming up on me quick, about providing for families.
There are a couple of advantages to places like Medium, Facebook, or Quora over a normal website.
The first is branding -- you get what you expect from a site. FB for personal connections (memes or distraction for others), curated content for Medium & Quora, etc. I remember using the web back in the 90s or so. I had committed to memory a dozen sites or so that I would visit every day. Slashdot, Yahoo News, ScaryGoRound etc. It was a bit stressful. Now I can just go to Reddit and just get distracted by whatever. Even curating your own Reddit experience is difficult, like it was for RSS. Most viewers of Reddit don't really create an account.
The second is ease of use for publishers. I'm not going to set up a website, even a Wordpress blog now if I can just go post content on Reddit or Medium where I have a chance of people reading it.
There are other things like consistent UX, etc.
Using S.M.A.R.T. goal system (https://www.yourcoach.be/en/coaching-tools/smart-goal-settin...) is helpful, too.
"I will resolve this 1 bug." "I will scope out this feature" "I will wireframe this UI" "I will start and tabulate this survey with these 2 questions"
These are all helpful and can be easy to finish.
This is like telling depressed people to be happy or victims of violence with PTSD to 'grow a pair' and 'snap out of it'.
This is the kind of simplistic, unhelpful, shaming advice that keeps mental illness taboo.
How about mid level people who are familiar with web apps but are mostly experienced in C++ embedded programming?