debok

You are right. However, that doesn't stop others from calling them activists. If you are on the so called "far right," then merely living out your values seem like activism to those who are opposed to you.

Yeah, you're right. I should've added a YMMV qualifier.

While it might be hard to grow roots, it is not impossible. IMO, you should start doing serious work on growing roots when you are in your late 20s. Growing roots include:

- Getting married

- Having kids

- Settling down to live in one place

- Finding out how you can participate in the local community, and the actively participate

You will find that people are remarkably open to people who willingly contribute to other's well-being. This is how friends are made, this is how roots are grown.

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"Trad wife" AKA people subscribing to traditional Christian ideas of marriage are very much "far-right cultural activists" from the feminist perspective.

Traditional Christian ideas about marriage (i.e. stay-at-home mom, breadwinner husband, the wife willingly submitting to her husband's authority, the husband willingly sacrificing his own ambitions for the good of his family, etc.) are very much not in line with feminism. While these people won't call themselves "far right cultural activists" they do have to reject feminism in order to have a consistent worldview, and feminists would definitely call them something along the lines of far-right.

I do agree that far-right is a misnomer, "religious right" or "socially conservative" might be a better fit. My point is that "far-right cultural atavism" and "traditional wife" are the same thing from different perspectives.

> debok are telling me they can have a relationship with someone who is immoral and unethical in their opinion.

I do that all the time. In some cases, like abuse, I consider those people to be my enemies. I consider it moral and ethical to love your enemies. So I have relationships with moral and unethical people without stamping my approval on their actions.

You are speaking with wisdom. I completely agree.

We must remember that kids are very inexperienced in life, sometimes it is necessary to state this obvious fact. Parents have to make decisions for our kids based on how much life-experience they have. I don't let my 3 year old decide what to have for dinner, because it would cause him to be sick very quickly. We can bring this full circle to the OP: We don't let our kids have their own smartphones before they reach their teens, and I think that is wise.

Your comment feels like you inherently misunderstand both the abstinence pledge, and this pledge.

Neither is about ignoring the thing, but about waiting for the appropriate circumstances. Abstinence is about waiting until marriage. This cellphone thing is about waiting until your brain is developed enough.

Thank you.

12 - 13 is the age my wife and I have in mind for giving our kids their own smart phone.

> Yes they do. Lots of people do because they talk to their kids.

You are assuming that the kids somehow magically know what would make them happy.

> One day, your kids are going to tell you that you are wrong. Totally wrong. Wrong about morality and ethics. Wrong wrong. And you are going to have to believe them, or you will lose access to a part of their life forever.

How do you know that? I for one feel that my parents gave me way too much access to tech while I was too young to handle it. Also, I wouldn't cut my parents off for disagreeing with me about morality or ethics, I would expect the same treatment from my kids when they are grown-ups.

> Raising a kid is hard, but being a kid is harder.

I did both, and in my experience raising a kid is much harder than being one.

Probably by mistake. Every childbirth is different. Mostly things progress slowly, sometimes it happens quickly.

Usually they measure the regularity and intensity of the contractions. If the contractions are short and far between, the hospital will send the mother home, because it will probably be several hours before the child comes. However, some childbirths don't follow these rules.