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> debok are telling me they can have a relationship with someone who is immoral and unethical in their opinion.

I do that all the time. In some cases, like abuse, I consider those people to be my enemies. I consider it moral and ethical to love your enemies. So I have relationships with moral and unethical people without stamping my approval on their actions.

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I don't think you should encourage people (including your kids) to do that: If someone doesn't feel like they should have a relationship with someone, they shouldn't have to.

I also think you should consider the context a little bit: I'm trying to tell you that if you're not on your kids' side then they're going to keep some things from you (NB emphasis: "you will lose access to a part of their life forever"), not that they're going to keep everything from you, or "cut you off completely". Did you perhaps miss that and read what I wrote a little too narrowly?

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