The utility is your kids being raised. For example, it doesn't make sense to pay you to clean your own room. People get pay because they provide value to another person, not because they provide value to themselves.
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I'm a little younger than you, but I feel the same way. I think it's an easy thing to fall into when you live a pragmatic life. Part of it is societal pressure and part of it is we stop exploring. Luckily, there are examples like Richard Feynman, who are smart, hardworking, and still know how to have a good time.
The problem I see is too many people focus on things outside their control. Even if luck controls 95% of the outcome. It's uninteresting to focus on. Focusing on it doesn't change the outcome. Too many focused on it and surrender to it. "It's all luck anyway."
HN is also good at introducing you to different topics you haven't heard of before. However, it's up to you to do research on your own if you want to learn more about it. I wouldn't say HN is great for deep learning, but it is great for getting an idea of the general landscape. GraphQL, GPT-3, and PG essays are some things I came across here before anywhere else.
I started wearing ear plugs and facemask to sleep. I started wearing it because my partner usually sleeps much later than me. First couple night took some adjusting, but after a week or two. I realized something. I started falling asleep almost immediately after putting on the ear plugs and facemask. That's when I made the realization I unintentionally created a habit with the ear plugs and facemask as the cue.
I can't speak from the context of someone who has schizophrenia because as far as I know I don't have it. So I'll speak more generally.
"Get busy running" is a mindset. It was a reference to "Get busy living" from Shawshank Redemption (Great movie). I don't know your situation, or how horrible it is to live with schizophrenia. I just hope there are still things you can control in your life. No matter how small or minuscules they seem, focus on that. Focus on the things you can do better.
There is nothing wrong with wanting help or helping other people. However, from the perspective of an individual(who is suffering/disadvantaged) it's a safer bet to focus on things you can control. So, yes, I am putting the ownership of your life, in your own hands. Isn't that empowering? I find it is. Also, it doesn't have to be alone. Maybe, the way to help yourself is you find people that can help you. Allowing people to help and accepting help is big.
No one asked for life. You're just given it. All the beauty and suffering. I said a race, but there is no finish line. You try or you don't. To everyone who is trying to make the world a better place. Thank you. I support you. I want the same thing. I'm trying to help in my own way. You might not agree, but that's okay.
lol I hate how philosophical and cheesy I sound, but that's what I feel.
I'm simply saying, no matter your situation, do the best you can because that's what you have control over. Also, it's easier to change yourself, than to change the world. I mean if you're fighting to change the world, more power to you. I hope you succeed and make the world a fairer place.
Yea, it's out of touch to tell someone with broken legs to walk it off. But, if someone got the wind knock out of them. That's perfectly fine advice.
In fact, I hope and believe the majority of mental illness cases are not serious. Like, most physical cases. It's just harder to see, so people have a harder time properly categorizing it. Which is damaging to a person psyche. If someone has a sprain ankle, but thinks they have cancer. Imagine the unnecessary trauma and hopelessness the person is experiencing.
My parents immigrated to a country with basically nothing and barely spoke English. I can't imagine what their lives were like, how hard it must have been. I was raised below the poverty line and had free lunch well into high school. They always told me they did everything they did because they wanted me to have a better life. It worked. I am amazed at how far there were able to climb, and it gave me the confident to achieve so much more. My mom routinely calls me a dreamer because I wanted to make six figures. In her world, this is huge, she doesn't understand the world like I do. And, that's okay, she did the best she could, so I achieve so much more. And, hopefully, one day, my child can achieve things I can only dream of.
Life is unfair. The way I see it is every one of us was dropped into a race that we didn't ask to be in. Some of us got dropped further along in the race, some of us got dropped further behind. Is it unfair? Fuck yea it is, but what are you going to do? Stay there and complain? Or are you gonna get busy running.
Anyways, I took some time off to travel and unwind like you. I remember the day I came back to work-- all the stress and horrible feelings I had immediately came back like I never took a break. So, I left.
I didn't quit the tech industry, but I took a year break from working. I was lucky, because I had a SO that could support me. So, I didn't have to worry about money too much. I still missed the stability of a job though. The break did a couple of things for me. It gave me time to develop new habits and it renewed my curiosity. I started tinkering again. It's really hard to care about new developments or technologies when you're drowning. However, if you're able to take care of yourself, I believe you'll find the curiosity that led you down to being a developer in the first place.
If you're a developer or if you're in tech. You're constantly learning. If you don't naturally like learning, it's going to be tough.
For me finding the community isn't the hard part. The hard part is finding the time and energy to engage with the community. Good luck!
Eventually, I had enough. I decided not be sad anymore. I'll never be Bill Gates, Bruce Lee, or any of my heroes. And, people in the third world can never all the opportunities I have. So, I decided it doesn't matter my situation. There is always some miniscule, tiny thing I can do to improve my situation. I started waking up earlier, journaling more, and stuck to these habits religiously. They became my anchor. Now I'm in a much better place. To everyone who is struggling. I hope you find your better place too.