To change your thinking about goals, you’ll need to recognize
that goals aren’t for everyone.
And that’s completely okay.
Goals and problems are mentioned in your original post, but they
are fundamentally different things.
Goals usually mean you’re adding value. Problems mean you’re
fixing something. Mixing the two is likely what’s making things
difficult. Sometimes we make a goal to solve a problem, and
sometimes we try to solve a problem to achieve a goal.
But goals and problems are not the same thing.
This isn’t just semantics.
We’ve all witnessed those visionary folks that are born to set
and achieve goals e.g. Steve Jobs.
Then there are the problem-solving geniuses who can break down
and debug just about any problem you throw at them.
This is getting a bit too long, so I wrote up more to help
figure out "Which one are you?":
https://rayli.net/posts/goals-vs-problems/