Even the venerable libraries like useQuery introduce as many surprises as they do benefits. The complexity cost of understanding what is going on under those 20 LOC is quite high – you need to understand "stable values" (which is only relevant to React components), re-renders and how they're triggered, maybe need to understand how graphql fragments are collated into one query document... maybe need to know when useRef is the right way to memoize over useMemo.
I agree with the author, that it feels insane. I would even add to the insanity the lack of quality when searching for help, and the weird rabbit holes that GPT can send you down if you don't already know what "good" looks like.