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I don't know that it is more common in tech because I have only worked in tech. Does that make it OK in tech if it happens everywhere else too? Would that make you want to fix it any less if you knew it was wrong that it happened everywhere?

No I meant that I wouldn't have given two shits who he asked to carry heavy stuff. I'll edit it to make that more clear.

Would that make it OK here? If it happened any less anywhere else? Would that make you want to fight against a thing that was wrong any less?

I feel like we all joined this community because we thought we could change stuff.

Fun fact: bringing a lawsuit against your company is not good for feeling like you're going to be getting hired places later: especially since I believe (not completely sure) you can only sue for punitive damages.

Being reasonably sure that wouldn't happen at the next job.

That is not consent.

I don't really want to be the one to speak authoritatively on this topic because I can only speak about a very personal subject that happened to me and about what a colleague of mine told me under very strict confidence. I'd rather see serious scientific study on the topic, so we can refine our efforts to most effectively cut out this problem at the root cause.

We know rape is statistically a problem and we know it isn't well-studied. We are scientists. The next thing to do is not to listen to panic and get reactionary, it is to dedicate the resources necessary to pursue a proper understanding of it.

We're also engineers and entrepreneurs. I'd like to think we know well enough that to start with the lowest hanging fruit when trying to make positive change.

These are the reasons I'm not really ready to march in here with a "how to fix rape: the article." I would be really excited to see what other people have written as far as possible solutions to this. I'm trying to read through scholarly criminology journals when I have time. They're doing some good work. I wish more smart people were paying attention.

In the meanwhile, what I am for sure is needed is for people to look out a little bit for each other, so if there is somebody in your life who has reason to feel afraid and alone (or afraid of being alone), they know they aren't going to be.

I can't tell you how relieved I am to hear that. Thanks for telling me!

I'm really sad this got downvoted off the front page (this article is only one hour old with 9 points, things 3 hours old with 9 points are still on the page). It's cool if not everybody is interested in talking about this, but I feel like the entire point of this article was that making whistle-blowers harder to hear is not good for society.

I defined rape as the kind with the (bad) screaming and the blood, or tried to. I am aware that some people steal because they are starving but most theft I have seen was somebody who wanted to prove that they could do it. In the same way, I know some people rape in other complicated situations, but the rape I have seen in my life was individuals who just wanted to prove that they could do whatever they wanted, and nobody was going to stop them.

My reading does not suggest that all rape produces irrefutable physical evidence, nor do I feel confident that reporting rape to our existing justice system would save me from further humiliation and other professional/personal consequences while providing safety. If you have evidence to the contrary, I can't tell you how excited I'd be to hear it.

I was pretty shocked anybody in Silicon Valley was on that list. It seems career suicide.

Yeah I think people aren't pushing art styles in sidescrollers way hard enough. They're all weird vague pixel art things.

Hey, I'm the Director of Development for Hacker Dojo. I know your pain, I've been homeless before too, but we seriously just got out of zoning trouble with the city of Mountain View, so to everybody who might be temped to take a similar leap of faith: please don't crash in the Dojo. I respect that we all have problems, but heaping them on somebody else is pretty unexcellent.

And Kris: have a super awesome day bro, and best of luck with CrowdDare.

There's a Dojo nomad community, we hooked Kurt up with them when he arrived, you may want to find them. They're good folks and offer each other great tips.

But, for the love of christ, please don't sleep in the Dojo ever, it endangers our zoning. We've had enough trouble with that can of worms already, and I don't ever want to see the zoning board again except maybe at a nice party.

(Katy here) I would super appreciate feedback on how to be less abrasive.

Yes, it makes the very demographic people are trying to reach out to the most feel very unwelcomed. It also means that many people never challenge their assumptions and the lady doesn't get to correct them.

I actually generally really enjoy the company of gamers. They may be funny people, but most of the time they're good people.

I read this with the chorus of Journey

"Don't stop, belieeeeeeving! Streetlight! People!"

In a perfect world I would like to see this problem solved, and would have posted a solution if I knew one. I am super eager to hear solutions.

Wasn't at a booth, and I'm not very comfortable with the solution to this problem being "dress differently."

Also, lots of gentlemen are highly trained to keep their eyes up so they aren't accused of staring at boobs. I'm not sure if any of them would read my shirt anyway.

Done, edits are italics, thanks

When the guys were shouting, the rest of the crowd and security was frowning at them. It was really easy to see this problem was something everybody knew about, that good people had my back, and something we would solve shortly. It wasn't fun at the time, but I knew it would be done soon.

GDC was a worse experience because it was profoundly isolating, and made me feel like an outsider. Also, I don't see an easy solution coming to fix it, which makes the situation feel more depressing.

(I added that after he posted, because s/he brought up a good point.)

So I like the core of this idea, but since many gentlemen have been trained to not stare at a girl's boobs and make a great point of keeping their eyes up, I'm not sure if they'd read my shirt at all. It would probably have to be a different piece of clothing

Hey guys, Katy here, just wanted to thank everybody for the support and super insightful feedback. I will continue to edit the post and post here with clarifications, mostly after work hours :)

And yes, I know everybody's probably sick of gender issues, and that's why I almost didn't bring it up, but I hoped it would be a chance for a good civil discussion, and I'm really glad to see it turning into that. Hopefully someday soon everything can be awesome, we'll never have occasion to talk about this garbage again, and we can all go back to nerding. I can't tell you how much I am looking forward to that day.

But, seriously, the civility and respect here have totally blown me away. Really proud to be a part of this community. Thanks everybody, you give a lady hope!

I was actually thinking a solution might be to hand out awesome buttons that say "I make stuff!" and then encourage both women and men to wear them.

OP here. Trust me. I wish there were more technical ladies. I don't enjoy being "an oddity," I've just accepted it as a part of life. Thanks for bringing up the point though, I edited the post.

OP here: I can put people in their place all day, but if my goal was to make friends, that's not the best foot to start out on.

And yes, I have a lot of geeky T-shirts. I don't like the idea of having to dress a certain way to be taken seriously, it seems very "un-engineering."

While cleaning your home for a few hours a day is not hard physical labor, cleaning houses all day would probably not be a great job for somebody with back pain. It is certainly more physically strenuous than your average job at McDonalds, which they already have available to them.

This article just reminded me to support what is probably one of the last worthwhile news programs on air. Here's a link for you if you want to too!

http://www.npr.org/about/support/