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I agree with this bit, but often struggle to verbalize what is hard. I'm curious to hear your take.
I usually say, in a hand wavy way, that structuring large logical processes takes a lot of deep concentration, but that doesn't quite capture it.
A friend had moved to Denver and was starting to climb more impressive and intense routes just as my whole division at a big company was let go. It looked fun and I thought it would be a good way to spend my time. After a primer from my friend, I joined clubs and sought out partners who I gelled with. I ultimately found that the passionate rationality of alpine climbing's risk assessment and fitness requirements were a great healthy replacement for what I did at work.
I started trail running as part of my training and decided I liked it for its own sake. I took up ski mountaineering a couple years later because it meant I could have more fun moving faster on larger terrain. I took up mountain biking two years ago because a buddy badgered me about how fun it was and described it as "skiing in the summer." And, recently, with a large base of fitness, I joined a group of friends who are all martial arts nerds who get together for sparring and style comparison chats. I wrestled in high school, so I jumped in and decided it was as fun now as it was then.
This whole journey kicked off in 2016. I spend between 5 and 15 hours per week in one of the above disciplines, plus a few hours a week in the gym lifting. It takes a lot of effort, but it rarely feels like it because I'm enjoying myself. I prefer all of these hobbies because, like many of us, my job keeps me glued to a screen/hunched over a work table and I wanted something that put me back in my body in an enjoyable way.
-Seeing another societal system in practice and realizing that there are things from back home (CA, USA) which I took for granted which actually worked better than anywhere I went. The corollary is things I took for granted that were actually horribly broken and easily done better everywhere else.
-If you're gone long enough, coming back to your own culture can actually give you culture shock, which is about as unique an experience as I've had. It is somewhat related to the above. Hard to put this one in to words... kind of a "dancing about architecture" thing. It's a new set of eyes.
-Perspective broadening interactions around relative wealth, prosperity, historical inertia, and personal responsibility. It became much more clear to me and much less hypothetical how some poverty is legitimately just lazy people and some poverty is circumstantial.
-I'm not ashamed to admit this one even a little: If you managed to extend your comfort zone while traveling, you win dinner party conversations when you return. I climbed big dangerous mountains and traveled to unique place. Nobody cares about the algorithm I worked out on a Thai beach, but everybody wants to know about North Korea.
-You develop the skill of being comfortable inside your own skull. Assuming you are traveling alone, there will be lots of time without a stranger to talk to. That's a lot of down time to spend with yourself and really examine your own thoughts.
-You develop a self reliance related to not needing a lot. Once you realize you are fine just fine with a book and an afternoon and maybe spending the night sleeping in a park (that the locals say is safe!), the world is less menacing.
All the best engineering, art, audio, marketing, and polish in the world won't make a game more fun. Stickiness comes from game design and game design comes from iteration.
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Not saying you're wrong, just throwing a wrench into the works because it has been on my mind and I'm curious what the hive mind has to say.
I could be saving waaaay more, but I have no burning desire to optimize my lifestyle toward freedom. I'm super lucky that I enjoy my work. It's not fun 100% of the time and I'm not free to come and go as I please without consequences, which is something MMM especially optimizes for.
I'm optimizing to always be doing interesting work with people more intelligent or creative than me. Right now this is best accomplished by doing good work for companies with deep pockets so that I can do the fun stuff. I also optimize for exciting experiences and good connections with people. Sometimes those two optimization goals are at odds, but I've managed the cognitive dissonance by being more loosey goosey with my priorities than MMM advocates.
This has led to immense fun, personal satisfaction, and growth. I've lived and worked abroad. I make big, silly art. I'm floored by some of the people I work with. I'm lucky to have several big friend group--often the result of working on fun stuff together and then continuing those relationships outside of their original contexts.
All that said, I might totally change my tune if I had a kid and wanted to build a family or I suddenly wasn't making good money.