Get out more. Elsewhere in the EU PhD is not paid, at best you're doing lectures all while without any paid time off, sick leave, and if you want a good laugh from the universities' administrators, bring maternal leave up. The experience of my partner left me with a very bleak and medieval picture of the academia. And of course, if you're getting a research grant through the university, it comes as a loan of ~60-90k€ - you're expected to pay it back if your research is not as successful and, for example, you don't manage to publish enough articles in time.
Academia is a fucking joke.