Optometrist is a grey area as it isn't really covered by MSP, like dental. Unless it is a medical emergency. So your mother told you the right thing, because it's true
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There I used the search function to find groups of people playing Tennis and Soccer. I then showed up and started making friends/plans/hikings/coffees.
I also found out how I could mentor people in tech and grabbed a coffee with a few people who were late in their careers and trying to change jobs [it isn't a tech city, so people work more like "IT work"].
Also simply going for walks and coffees on the same places ensures you see familiar faces and start conversations!
Making contact with real people is the way - staying in online forums like this and Reddit is the opposite of what you want