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I don't know whether to laugh or cry.
She was so relieved simply to know that she didn’t have a problem; or more specifically, she was relieved to know that her problem was real. For she had gone all these years thinking that she was just lazy.
For all of those of you out there suffering under the weight of your inability to wake up early each morning, consider this one giant pardon.
the post comes off as one giant "it's ok to put your hand up and say 'I have a named medical condition so can I be excused from class'". That could just be my biased interpretation though as I've come across such a mindset before and tend to react very angrily to it. If that's not the message at all then consider my rant misplaced.
Note, I was in and out of specialist children's hospitals for a good year or two while doctors tried to diagnose the reason my brain works differently to theirs. I have a certain set of psychological challenges I have to overcome, but I don't sit around whining about it all day.
http://www.vpri.org/vp_wiki/index.php/Main_Page is the primary resource about COLA at the moment, if you're curious.
the point that I was trying to make which you seem to have completely misunderstood is that it doesn't seems necessary to create an account to use this application; I sign up for new things all the time but I don't think it's necessary for me in this case and feels like a barrier to entry. The OP asked for feedback, and I provided it based on my opinion on how I personally would use the service.
However, we had been together for over 7 years by that point and I'd be very wary of advocating getting married young to everyone, as I know at least here in the UK there seem to be quite a few teenage/early-twenties couples who decide to get married after a few months to a year, and end up divorced 6 months later. The facts in this article could be also taken as very misleading, especially considering that the happiness survey they took made no mention of age.
Also in response to your edit, I do trust that you guys are honest but I'm aware of a lot of sites which use Facebook Connect to get permissions to someone's wall and just start spamming them heavily. By emphasising Facebook Connect you may get tarred with the same brush.
Also, I'd be wary of signing up with Facebook for a job-search app - while I'm not actually looking for a new job, if I were that'd put me off in case you posted a notification to my wall.
some of the examples in the article make this abundantly clear:
* the sleep experiment, where he was obviously suffering by the end
* the gay relationship which, while the article doesn't mention whether Merrill is bisexual, certainly seems to imply that he isn't and went through with the relationship to appease his shareholders
While you and I know that refactoring is the right thing to do, the customer/manager isn't going to say "by all means, delay completion of the project in pursuit of improvements to parts of the system that only you have to deal with". They don't see/understand the code so naturally they don't care about its state.
[note] Obviously this is a blanket statement but it's been applicable to me and I'm sure others have experienced similar.
This seems like the correct way round to me for the majority of cases where subcomponents of your product could be externalised - a 3rd party should be the primary go-to choice unless a company cannot be found that fits the requirements. The issue I see in development (and have been guilty of in the past) is simply building everything when libraries could easily cover the use case - "not invented here" syndrome. That's the real problem.
[edit] Also I think it's clear that there'll always be cases where the default doesn't apply, for example when working with a new field/concept or where the 3rd party options are too far from the mark, but for the majority of development (especially web development) there's likely a library/service to match many of your requirements.