RHSman2

It is such a revelation. But a slow one that takes a while to incorporate into being (I found.)

I have a 9 year old dyslexic boy with solid ADHD (impulsive). It’s been quite the journey (so far). He is heading back to ‘normal’ school next semester with no special support and fully integrated almost like a neurotypical. Sort of.

I have the same ADHD style:

Overall lessons: 1. Sleep. Melatonin. Transformational 2. Love. Love and more love. 3. Forgiveness and understanding 4. Throwing the kitchen sink at him for finding the outlet (sport) he loved. Gave him a sense of direction. 5. Ritalin: assists with ability to concentrate and therefore learn. Used only for education. 6. Educate yourself and get diagnosed yourself if you have. 7. Be the change in yourself and mirror and explain what you know (and don’t know) 8. Full spectrum intelligence test. Know where the issues are (processing speed, etc) and also where the strengths are.

We got a semi diagnosis at 5, then year on year assessments to see what we could know.

I wish there was a better support and road map for the steps to go through as a parent. I feel very lucky to be a dad of a child with ADHD in this time though.

But you know what? I couldn’t give a rats ** if science proves it one way or the other. It wakes me the hell up. Everytime.

When I cold shower I do the initial grunt and then desperately want to get my head under. Every time. And then it is more manageable.

Micro dosing versus macro dosing?

It’s not weird, just kinda ‘who is the me if I am telling my brain what to do and who is the brain if it will not do what I want?’ Way ;)

I ignored the parts of me that like comfort and oh God I feel good for ages after physically (in a slightly shivery way) but also that I CAN do it way.

On a side note, I will take a cold shower after workouts and it extends my feeling of ‘magnificence’ and the ‘I worked out today’ sensations.

We’ll need an app: digital to rock carvings.

‘Fills’ even.

It used to rock me to anxiety. Now it feels me with peace.

I am not making any assumptions about you. Simply posting my opinion.

You are missing the subjectivity of the life experience. Death is binary and beyond the event horizon therefore out of the equation. The experience of it is not.

Try climbing. Top ropes, sport and traditional. All the same things but with wholly different consequences. The experience is entirely different.

The person who had a near death experience versus dying is on a spectrum. One being acute, the other being chronic. Both would have different views.

Have you read ‘The Way of the Peaceful Warrior’ by any chance?

I found 1 really helped 3. I know longer had an excuse of alcohol creating a version of me. I just have said traits.

And then I got to work more on those.

You can conceptually understand death but you do not know it because you don’t experience it’s ‘ground rush’. So I disagree.

Time is the only currency

Does your insight now have more relevance than when you were 11? I think so as you have a better view of what it means to exist as a human. We should all take our elders view with a little bit kore attention. Whether they are right or wrong, happy or sad, etc…

My children’s cake is my cake

Chapeau!!!! :)

You aren’t the first. The basis of Buddhism?

Now

I was afflicted with an awareness of existence from an early age and struggled with it till around 40. Having kids obviously enhanced that but also changed me so profoundly and I realized we are just human sized atoms flying through the universe.

I’d simply advise to get on getting on. It is. You are you so see what you can do with it in the way you feel you can.

Life is unbelievable. Then we hold on. And then it’s gone.

Pick how you wanna live it.

Autism based post sees a 77% increase in the average word count of comments. #verbose

I worked with a very autistic chap once. The most incredible mind and considering his levels of autism he was very self aware. He said that he should be treated like a computer when it came to work. Clear instructions, no ambiguity and with a clear reason.

If the reason did not make sense then that could be an issue and we would discuss.

Isn’t it called a spectrum for a reason?

It is unfortunate that the neurodivergent/neurotypical us vs them argument is happening.

You aren’t ever doing nothing. That act of doing nothing is something.

I believe this is how humanity will die. Internal TomTom degradation!!!

Same same!!! Lower back pain is such an unpleasant existence.