No I would not apply to another position at a company that ghosted me.
I too see it as a symptom of corporate dysfunction.
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Why would people pay to post? Why do people post in the first place?
I’d also not do it because it’s just another dataset about my life that can be exploited to my detriment on a personal level.
However, I think there’s an ethical dilemma if you begin to sell health data. For example, the type of people who are going to be willing to sell their health data are probably going to be poor people who are desperate for money. They’re probably not going to be thinking about the wider implications of selling that data. Rather they will driven by trying to solve the immediate need in their life (the need for more money).
So monetising health data makes vulnerable people more vulnerable to exploitation as well. Corporations that would want access to health information are probably not as altruistic as you’d like to pretend. They are businesses who will look for opportunities to make money. The easiest people to exploit for the purposes of boosting profits are poor and low-middle class people. The same people who would sell their healthcare data in a moment if it solve an immediate need today.
Additionally, I think it puts people at risk of having their privacy breached with their sensitive information at a high risk. Say for example, you were a woman that had accidentally become pregnant at some stage and didn’t want the baby, so secretly had an abortion without your partners knowledge… if you sell your health data, in some cases you’re selling all your deepest darkest secrets.
I actually now have a preference for my grammatically incorrect writing.
My emails are especially littered with grammatical errors because I don’t care about emails.
I think AI poses a threat to knowledge though. Being able to distinguish between what is real and what is not is becoming increasingly more difficult.
I figured out how to easily induce lucid dreaming for myself basically by letting myself become sleep deprived and then drinking copious amounts of caffeine before letting myself nap. Somehow, that almost always results in a lucid dream state.
Then in my lucid dreams, I often choose to dream about things that I wish were a reality in my real life, but that are not. Often relating to desired connections and relationships with people i’d like to have relationships with in real life, but can’t for whatever reason. Maybe it’s partly due to my anxious-avoidant attachment style, but I struggle to have healthy romantic relationships or even to maintain friendships for very long. The other reason I use lucid dreams (less often) is for exam preparation. I lucid dream that I am studying my course material etc usually the night before. Somehow it helps with recalling facts etc during exams the next day.
I agree. It’s difficult to strike the balance right. I definitely don’t think there is a need for me to give my kids more money than they already get. Particularly because they’re sort of lazy when it comes to household chores, especially the neurotypical kid - he’s diabolically lazy. The money I give is independent of “chores”. It’s literally a lesson in an of itself. If I want them to do a job for me, ie, gardening etc, I’ll offer them a similar amount of money to what I’d pay someone else to do it. The $100 a fortnight is basically like my own version of a universal basic income for kids. It hasn’t destroyed their motivation to earn money in other ways, in fact, I think it’s motivated them to want to get good paying jobs etc, so they can have more money.
They’re still relatively young though, so I will be interesting to see how they do once they reach adulthood and have real adult responsibilities and bills to pay etc.
At first I did it with cash and they didn’t have bank accounts, but I found the problem was the younger one would “misplace” his savings money all the time. And I also found that the ADHD was sly and would “find” the younger brothers misplaced money and spend it, but in such a way that I couldn’t prove it. So I just went and opened bank accounts for them. Who has cash these days anyway! It’s been much better since.
The ADHD kid walks.
This is why some people who have ADHD actually get worse on medication, as they may also have mild cases of Tourette’s that haven’t been identified. Tourette’s and ADHD commonly occur together along with OCD. I call it the ADHD trifecta. My son has behaviours consistent with all three (the most overlapping symptom being impulse control (or also known as compulsive behaviours). It’s a difficult combination of behaviours to manage, and with Tourette’s in particular, it’s not just verbal tics or motor tics, it’s also severe disinhibition (think having no filter), and uncontrollable rage (also because of the lack of filter). So the ADHD medication makes all those behaviours worse.
He instead has off label medications. Clonidine, and a SNRI (I hate that he is on an SNRI, but he’s been on it for 4 years and before he was on it, life was really extremely distressing and hard most of the time so I often remind myself of those times when I feel guilty that he’s been on an SNRI for as long as he has).
So a lot of the management of his ADHD has to be through behavioural approaches since we can’t use medication to help. Hence doing things like this money thing, and him suffering the consequences of his poor money choices.
Interestingly, even though the the non-ADHD one does better at saving, he doesn’t understand the concept of interest yet. However, the ADHD one clicked on very quickly to how interest works, and his bank has a policy that if you withdraw from your savings more than once in a month, you lose the interest for that month. So now the older one has started to plan withdrawals around that idea. It’s not the exact lesson I would like him to learn, I’d prefer that he just didn’t withdraw. But I like that he’s coming up with his own strategy to manage his money (and impulse control issues).
I think I’d rather a McLaren or a Lamborghini.
I decided I wanted to become a psychologist, and now more recently, I’ve refined that further and decided I’d like to become an organisational psychologist/behaviour analyst, though I’ve kept my options open, and dabbled in clinical psych as well. However, my goal is to be able to influence human behaviour en masse (in pro-social ways).
How the path to change has looked for me: I already had a health science degree from before I did my anaesthetic assisting training. In my health science degree, I had done all the 100-level and some of the 200-level psych courses so I chose to go back to the university for ease of transferring, and getting some prior recognition. This saved me 2 years of study. I then completed a graduate diploma in psych, and I’m now in the midst of a 2 part masters which is made up of 8 post-graduate courses and one 12-18 month research project/thesis. Where I live, that’s not enough to be a psychologist. After the masters, you have to then do further study, since I’ve decided I don’t want to be a clinical psychologist, I’ve decided to do a Master of Organisational psychology after my general psychology masters. Then, in addition to that, I’ve also found a Master of behaviour analysis that I’m looking in to doing if I think it will actually add value. Part of me suspects not, I think if you already hold two Masters degree’s in psychology, then at a certain point extra formal study becomes a waste of both time and money - but I keep an open mind, as I’ve seen a really interesting job once advertised by my countries tax department, they were looking for a behaviour analyst to work on a project that was aimed to encourage business people to be more honest and reliable in paying their taxes.
Changing career is tedious. The number of years of dedication and consistency it requires is definitely off putting. If I did not love my chosen subject and chosen career change I’d not do it. As I already have a career where I earn 6 figures and have a fair amount of job certainty. I’d even go as far as to say for the most part, I actually like my current career, it’s just boring and under stimulating on a day to day basis. Sometimes I wish my anaesthetic assisting could extend to other animals. I’d love to help anaesthetise a bird or a lizard. Something that isn’t a mammal.
I felt I was failed by education/parents with regard to financial literacy, because the first time I ever had real money in my life was when I went to university the first time and I had no idea how to manage it, and I ended up homeless for some time.
Now I’m a parent myself, I decided I’d teach my kids about money by actually giving them money. $100 each per fortnight. I made both kids set up savings accounts that earned interest, and they had to save $50 a fortnight. The other $50 I said they could spend on whatever they liked, but that I would no longer pay for anything related to their gaming (ie, Xbox subscriptions etc), I don’t buy them toys, or nice snacks, or fancy branded clothes - that’s all stuff they now need to save for and buy themselves with the money they are given. One kid has ADHD and the other kid is close to neurotypical. The neurotypical kid certainly learned how to manage money quicker. His savings account remained perfect, he accumulated interest as well, and can always afford his subscriptions etc. he barely ever even spends the $50 that he’s allowed to do anything with, but when he wants to use money when going out with friends etc, he just always has money, and he even keeps some cash on hand as well.
The other kid on the other hand has taken a longer time to understand but, there’s absolutely no way an ADHD kid would learn without real money to manage in my opinion and I think they benefit from having the freedom to make mistakes with money. He would spent his $50 within about 10seconds of receiving it, generally on stupid shit from Amazon. Then he never had money for his gaming subscriptions which would result in massive meltdowns when he couldn’t play his games, and then he never had money to do stuff with friends when he wanted to. He was always the “poor kid”. Then, even though he wasn’t supposed to, he withdrew cash from his savings to pay for subscriptions, losing interest etc, and then also having no savings. It took about a year, but he’s finally learned to stop buying stupid shit on Amazon. He still can’t seem to save the way his brother can, but he saves for a couple of months at a time, and then buys the next computer part he wants, and he always sets aside the money for his game subscriptions now as well. He also does sometimes put extra little bits of money in his savings when he’s particularly motivated for a more expensive piece of computer, but he still often withdraws for stupid small shit. He also compares his spending behaviour to his brothers and he realises that his brother is “rich” because he doesn’t spend money.
It’s an expensive lesson for me to teach them, but, I genuinely think that it has helped them both learn real life lessons with regard to money. I think the unfortunate thing is that the people who really need to learn money, are the ones that don’t have it. I’m very lucky that I’m in a position to be able to afford to let me kids experiment with $100 each a fortnight. There’s people out there who could probably afford more than that, but I think that in the real world, a large majority of people cannot afford to give their kids that learning opportunity. However, for me, having once been homeless, and then many years later having done an MBA which included finance, I realised the best way to help my own kids learn to manage money was to give them some money to manage.
I honestly recommend trying to desensitise yourself to rejection by applying for jobs you don’t want/wont get, so you can get used to experiencing rejection in low stakes situations (basically in situations where you’re not going to be bothered if you don’t get the job). I’ve done this most of the last few years. I’ll occasionally apply for jobs I don’t want or scholarships I know I don’t meet the criteria for, and get rejected. I’m always surprised at how even when I don’t want a job, I can still be so sensitive about the rejection, but I’m proud to say that I’m getting used to rejection. More often than not now when I get a rejection email I just shrug it off. The past year has been a bit of a break through though thanks to my conscious decision to go for low stakes rejections on purpose (basically like a type of exposure therapy). I actually managed to ask a human being out in a real life situation (expecting to get rejected) and to my surprise they wanted to go out on a date with me. I applied for a job, and they flew me to the HQ just today actually for an interview. When you face your fears head on, I find that more doors seem to open for you, and life gets a bit more interesting. For anyone who struggles with rejection sensitivity, I recommend looking for opportunities to experience rejections in low stake situations.
I’m amused because I actually got the short version of Schrödingers equation tattooed on my ankle about 3 weeks ago.
Yes I am a nerd.
Have you tried social engineering your way into one?
This is just an idea… but big tech companies have generally got LinkedIn pages with employee’s who love to shamelessly plug their position at their company. So.. why don’t you just use that tool to look at what employee’s have the most influence at companies that appeal to you. Watch those employees and what they follow, like and comment on and see how they engage, notice the kind of language they use, gage their morals and values, look for things you can use to bridge a connection with them, and then… once you start building those connections, start using them as leverage, and a foot in the door to what jobs you want.
Do you get paid? I'd do it for money. I'd not waste my time doing it for free.