OS X indeed lacks it, and it is a pain in the butt to some:
http://osxdaily.com/2013/08/30/refreshing-finder-windows-in-...
http://apple.stackexchange.com/questions/60119/how-does-the-...
As you can see people have to come up with quirky workarounds to force refresh a folder on OS X, rather than just clicking a context menu button helpfully provided.
Others have created third party software to add it:
http://www.macupdate.com/app/mac/24714/refresh-finder
This has 46,000 downloads.
Both Windows and OS X fall out of sync for similar reasons: sometimes bugs, sometimes refreshing is slow/expensive so is done infrequently (e.g. over a network), and sometimes third party software providing "virtual" file system elements are terrible.
I don't really find the concept of a refresh button odd at all. But that's only because I've seen how many virtual file system providers these systems support and how quirky some of them are. If all they supported is native files on traditional file systems attached via reliable buses, then a refresh button wouldn't be required.