You're right about the taxes, as I've noticed early stage startups eschewing 83(b) elections and moving towards stock grants in general, which devalues equity significantly.
> On top of that, if you have 401k matching based on salary percentage contributed, you'll net a larger 401k, which is even more money.
Most of the time with average engineering salaries the problems center around exceeding the maximum contribution limit, but I agree that's a consideration. I've never seen early stage (post-A or post-B) offer generous matching, but they certainly can.