I can go 4 or 5 days a week not going to sleep before 4 AM and I am at work by 7 AM. I can also go 3 or 4 days waking up every hour on the hour and take 20 or 30 minutes to go back to sleep.
Most people don't know I am that tired thankfully.
If you haven't experienced insomnia it is, like most maladies, far more complex and difficult than you might imagine. Everyone has a suggestion or two, but it differs for each individual and has a multitude of causes (as I hinted, in my case a heart problem plus various complications from that, which I hope to get sorted soon).
Sometimes CBT is about fixing the problem; sometimes it's about helping someone cope better with a problem.
I'm saying that there seems to be a near universal assumption that sleep problems are psychological. In my experience, a lot of people will basically refuse to believe that someone has sleep problems due to non-psychological factors.
Regarding people not "believing" that your insomnia is physical rather than psychological: I think it's just that your symptoms are typical of a stress-related cause rather than an organic cause.
I've had these problems all my life (or as long as I can recall), and for that and other reasons, I don't think it's stress/burnout.
I've read of people having a lot of musculo-skeletal and inflammatory problems due to celiac disease. I don't see what the "typical" symptoms have to do with anything -- they don't say anything about a specific case of a particular person.
> Regarding people not "believing" that your insomnia is physical rather than psychological: I think it's just that your symptoms are typical of a stress-related cause rather than an organic cause.
I do not believe that is the case. It seems to me that the majority of people believe such things can only be psychological in nature... it's like they do not want to believe it could be otherwise.
I also question what evidence people have for the idea that insomnia is primarily caused by psychological factors. It seems to be mainly an assumption. I'm sure there's been some medical studies, but I feel that the medical profession is also strongly influenced by this assumption, and I really wonder how much any studies have been able to properly factor in non-psychological factors as the cause of insomnia.
Having some kind of issue all your life doesn't necessarily rule out stress as a cause (assuming you don't mean "every day of my life", but rather "I've had this issue off and on all m y life"). Everyone tends to have slightly different responses to stress/burnout, which will likely remain the same for most of your life.
Anyway, I would certainly recommend looking into all possibilities. For me CFS due to stress/burnout seemed to be the most likely cause of my health issues, and making significant changes to my lifestyle completely resolved the issues. I'm not saying this is the case for you, just giving you an example.
I find it very difficult to describe the nature of the symptoms. There's definitely a lot more than the general description I gave.
Regarding celiac disease, I have no idea why you're mentioning osteomalacia, as that does not seem at all related to the symptoms I described.
I would really really like to get a biopsy for celiac disease, but the effects of gluten on me are too severe for me to presently spare the few months of eating gluten required for the test. Unfortunately I got given, and followed, poor advice -- to go off gluten for a few months and then reintroduce it and see the consequences. I wish I had gotten the test initially. Being off gluten has cleared up a number of fairly bad symptoms that I've had all my life, and my brother and his daughter also have similar issues with it.
The inflammation/muscle spasm stuff has generally improved after avoiding gluten, but seeing as it is a chronic problem and has gotten into the state it current is in, even if the gluten was the root cause simply removing it is, by now (it seems) too late to make those things simply go away. (...and it's complicated by damage to some joints and muscular weaknesses from it being chronic for so long).
> Offering a psychological treatment does not mean they don't believe you or that your problems are not real and distressing.
I agree. I didn't say otherwise.
They're not the reasons I gave.
> It's pretty stigmatising of you to dismiss the pain felt from a purely psychological cause - did you realise ou were doig that?
what? show me anything I've written that has dismissed "the pain felt from a purely psychological cause"
Offering a psychological treatment does not mean they don't believe you or that your problems are not real and distressing.
It's pretty stigmatising of you to dismiss the pain felt from a purely psychological cause - did you realise ou were doig that?
Not everything is in your head, and no amount of positive thinking will change that.
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What was the cause of your insomnia?