From the FAQ:
"What is your policy on refunds?
If you decide to cancel your pre-order before Lily ships, we will provide a full refund to you."
This isn't a slight on this project specifically but there is a risk that any project which isn't yet in production won't get that far...
TLDR; during development of the printer, a number of things have changed (including a noticeable reduction in print volume). Refunds were offered August of last year, and the vast majority of refund requests are still pending (and currently half a month behind their own deadline for the latest update.
Not that I have any knowledge on whether the people behind Lily have better or worse communication and management skills, but just because they're happy to offer refunds doesn't mean they'll offer them promptly.
Not after 90 days you can't.