As the person whose gender was in question, I appreciate the doubt. I don't think you had any reason to believe that I was male, and male should not be the default gender.
It's also possible that English is not pdx mother tongue, maybe pdx tongue is one of those where the male pronoun is used to refer to people when the sex is unknown. Also, while it's usage as this has been fading, "he" is defined as "Used to refer to a person or animal of unspecified sex" in many dictionaries, and someone could have been tough that in school (I have been).
Jordi, you're being a dumbass dude. Jordi is usually a mans name. Of course I assume male. Take the stupid PC bullshit down, OK?
So, now that we're inulting each other and no longer civil, you're
being a flaming asshole and the reason women don't want to be in tech.
Fuck off and die.
- Jordi G. H.
You WERE being a dumbass. You DO need to take the stupid PC bullshit down.
Neither of these statements is actually that insulting. I did not call you a dumbass, I said you were being a dumbass in this instance. I did not call you stupid. l told you to take the stupid PC bullshit down (which you do need to do).
Now, telling somebody to Fuck off and die, that is insulting. I think your latin temper is showing itself, my friend. It's abolutely not OK to tell me to fuck off and die. It doesn't reflect well on you, or your organization. You need to wind it down.
I don't have a problem with your response in general, or ideas like "male should not be the default gender". I often try to avoid using gendered pronouns, for reasons like this. If the original person had said something like that, I probably wouldn't have replied. I do have a problem with someone casually questioning the use of a word, without demonstrating any consideration of whether it is actually correct, whether an effort was made to make sure it was correct, etc. For all we knew, the person who used "he" personally knows you, and mindfully chose to use a male pronoun. That uninformed, knee-jerk reply ("He?") is as useless and obnoxious as having a bot post "PUBLIC SERVICE ANNOUNCEMENT: REMEMBER THAT NOT ALL HACKERS ARE MALE. WE WELCOME WOMEN!" every time someone uses the word "he."
Really, to go full-on PC for the benefit of trans people, etc., I guess we can't use gendered pronouns even if we do know someone, unless we have been explicitly (and recently) told which pronoun they prefer.