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"Realizing"? She asked him about it and he lied to her.

Yes, and she was in a relationship for six months after the lie and failed to realize he was still married. (Or, she lied)

...and what about the married man who was also in that relationship, and lying about being married for those six months? And not just a lie of omission, but "We aren't together any more."

Yeah, maybe she ... "showed questionable judgement" for believing his lies, but he actively lied. What does that say about his judgement?

I thought the same thing.

While it is kind of odd that one can go out with someone for 6 months, live in the same city as them and never visit their house.... this guy was actively lying.

Its entirely possible, wanted to visit his place all the time, and gave a laundry list of bad excuses until she finally broke up with him for being dishonest as the relationship was becoming increasingly serious in her mind.

It's highly unusual to see someone for 6 months and not realize that they're still living with their spouse and kids. Even if the other person tells you it's not the case.

I don't think it's necessarily that unusual if you're dealing with a person of means or capability in deception.

We don't know what kind of "seeing" they were doing though - "dating" someone in modern lingo can mean anything from casual sex twice weekly to having breakfast every morning together. There's a huge variance in the type of information you know about someone between those two types of relationships.

Sorry, I was just quoting the last sentence in the article.

I know, it's just really poor word choice on the part of the author.

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