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If you want to get married and have kids, you should just do it. My wife and I had our daughter while we she was still in law school and I had just graduated. Taking care of a kid is a lot of work while both working long hours at big firms, but why that's what grandparents are for. There is no good time to be sleep deprived for months doing night feedings. At least in your 20's you have the energy and your parents are young enough to help out!

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"that's what grandparents are for"

Yeah, luckily they are guaranteed to be alive in your twenties.

> Yeah, luckily they are guaranteed to be alive in your twenties.

And guaranteed to live in the same city. And guaranteed not to be busy with other pursuits. Of course !

"If you want to get married and have kids, you should just do it."

Most of the women I know who are considering egg freezing would LOVE to "just do it". Not everyone is fortunate enough to meet the right person (who is also willing to commit and settle down) early on.

Nice you had family near by at the time. I know plenty of couples that are near none of either of their families. Sometimes they moved, sometimes their families moved, some times their families are no longer around

No, that's not what grandparents are for.

No... that IS what they are for. But really, that's what any family is for - not just grandparents.

Grandparents/other family might not want to take care of your kids every day while you're at work, which is understandable.

Yes but see, it's more and more common for people of our generation to live far away from their parents or any family.

Maybe, like waiting too late to have kids, that's something we as a society should rethink.

When our little boy was 20 months old, we moved 2 hours' drive north to be in the same town as my wife's parents. This is probably the single smartest thing we have done in our marriage.

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